[LysthieaMoons]

I tried telling my very good and understand friend about my depression. When I got my suicidal thoughts, they told me that suicide is selfish and it only hurts others. I'm so alone right now. My best friend called me selfish.

Possible trigger:

I feel like dying more than ever.

[dexter]

IMO a selfish person is one who makes a judgement about another without even trying to understand the pain and suffering that other person is going through. I'm so sorry this happened. I've had mixed response to telling people but more good than bad, people at least trying to understand. I show them some comics, drawings, and poetry that I think fits how I feel. For the people who respond with compassion, it helps A LOT. For me it is worth it to find people to tell.

[handheart]

I know that its hard for you but in a manner it has right because killink yourself you will let a lot of pain around you .Try to be grateful for what you have and you will get more in life dont focus on what you dont have because you will atrct more

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by dexter

IMO a selfish person is one who makes a judgement about another without even trying to understand the pain and suffering that other person is going through. I'm so sorry this happened. I've had mixed response to telling people but more good than bad, people at least trying to understand. I show them some comics, drawings, and poetry that I think fits how I feel. For the people who respond with compassion, it helps A LOT. For me it is worth it to find people to tell.

Originally Posted by handheart

I know that its hard for you but in a manner it has right because killink yourself you will let a lot of pain around you .Try to be grateful for what you have and you will get more in life dont focus on what you dont have because you will atrct more

This kind of advice is seldom helpful and makes people feel guilty for the way they feel. Also please learn how to spell. I've seen some of your other posts saying very unhelpful things as well.

[bookgirl667]

Few people who haven't been there really understand suicidality. When I'm suicidal, it's because I feel like the pain will never end and I want to kill myself to make it stop. I want out of the trap that is my life. It has nothing to do with selfishness and everything to do with not knowing how to help myself.

That said, I don't bother telling friends or family members anymore. It just freaks them out and they don't know what to say or do. I save it for my tdoc or pdoc or if I'm feeling really desperate and they are not available, I call a suicide hotline to talk things out.

[Clara22]

Originally Posted by LysthieaMoons

I tried telling my very good and understand friend about my depression. When I got my suicidal thoughts, they told me that suicide is selfish and it only hurts others. I'm so alone right now. My best friend called me selfish.

Possible trigger:

I feel like dying more than ever.

As many people, your friend is subject to prejudices about mental health issues. It is difficult to find understanding beyond peers, I mean, other people suffering the same we suffer.

[kecanoe]

People will say a lot of things to try to get you to not suicide. Possibly your friend was so devastated at the thought of losing you that he/she blurted out this unhelpful thing. Also, I have seen it in print that suicide is selfish, so I think there are people out there with that opinion. As in, you would be out of your pain, but they would be in terrible pain. Suicide does really hurt the people you leave behind. And for many people, the thought of the hurt that their death would cause is enough to keep them safe.
Can you take it as your friend was saying that they would really grieve?