[Ilovespunky]

I can be having a perfectly normal day and I'll have an argument with my son (27, still lives here) and he'll yell at me and hurts so much I don't know how I can breathe. I can have a sad memory from my childhood and hurts so much that I'll cry for the rest of the day. I'll think about the day my little dog will die and I have to get in bed; I can't stop crying. I am currently on 75mg Paxil cr and 75 mg Effexor every day and am prescribed 60 0.5 mg Xanax per month to take as needed. What's wrong with me? I hurt so much. Thank you in advance. Ps I've never been in one of these forums; hope I posted this ok and in the right spot.

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome, Ilovespunky.

You've posted in the right place, and there may be other right places around PsychCentral to post, too (Coping with Emotions?).

Depression, and anxiety for that matter, is a complicated condition that affects people in a variety of ways. The emotional shock and personal paralysis you describe easily fit under the depressive umbrella.

Feel free not to answer: Besides meds, are you receiving any other type of therapy? Has a doctor done a comprehensive medical workup?

Please make yourself at home here.

[Fuzzybear]

[waterknob1234]

Hello Ilovespunky and welcome. I understand sometimes it doesn't take much to trigger depression. Sending you love and hugs.

[MtnTime2896]

I suggest that you go and see a therapist and have a medical checkup and have a medication analysis as soon as you can.

[Sula B]

The things that trigger us varies widely for all of us - as unique as each one of us.

I get triggered easily by things like you name. Cannot handle disagreements with my children at all as they really are the only people in the world I truly care about (apart from a couple of close friends). I have a particular child hood memory of a friend that comes to mind on occasion that makes me sob; literally breakdown and whole body wracked by sobbing. This happened almost 40 years ago but it is as raw and painful in those moments as if it had just happened.

I find that if I just let myself feel it and allow the grief to enter for that moment, then it dissipates and I can be at peace until the next time.

I also agree that maybe you should have a med check just in case a change may help.