Spouses of depressed

I really need to talk. Spouse on meds for clinical depression, but unhappy at work lately, so not working as well lately. 3 kids at home. He's always so grumpy. Kids only come to me to ask about things they want to do because if they ask him, it's always No. One daughter had friend spend the night last weekend. Other daughter wants friend to spend night tonight. He says, "No, we can't have so many sleepovers. We need to find a way to have our kids go to other kids' houses instead of always having friends at our house."

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! Everything I've ever read about parenting tweens and teens tells me that you want their friends at your house otherwise, you don't know what your kids are doing nor do you know their friends. I'm so tired of it being No all the time. He's so selfish!

Wouldn't be better off without so much negativity in life?

My daughter asked why when I told her no sleepover. I didn't answer. I have no idea! What can tell her and remain supportive of my husband?

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Welcome to psych central! I have found this a great place for support and learning.

I'm sorry you're in such a difficult situation. It must be so hard for the whole family.

I have lived with depression the majority of my life, and I can relate to feeling that I want nothing out of routine to happen, but I agree that the children's needs are very important, often more important.

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