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I don't know about anyone else but, I have difficulty thinking of myself. I always help others, regardless the strain it puts on me. Not saying I'm perfect, merely very selfless. I have difficulty thinking of myself because I feel dirty when I do. I am trying so hard to think of me but, I have a low self worth. My father made aware at a very young age, that I wasn't worth squat. We learn as children, a lot of the things we use in adult life. I've sat and thought for a long time, how to put into words, how difficult it is to shake the low self worth. I think I've found a way to say it so others may understand myself and other people who have this problem: Trying to unlearn being taught you're worthless as a child, is much like unlearning math that you learned in school. |
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I often find myself doing the same thing. I think I do this because it takes my mind off the crushing weight of my depression for a moment. While I'm helping others I generally feel a little better. The problems occur when I start to neglect my own needs or people deplete me. I just suffered a bit of a breakdown because I wasn't focused on caring for my own needs for a while. Getting back to doing that now.
It is hard to take time out for yourself, but it is necessary in order to survive the day-to-day struggle with depression. Here's hoping you stop feeling as though you're unworthy of that self care because you most certainly are. |
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I'm going to be honest and say that I don't have low self-esteem or low self-worth. I honestly loath myself. Nearly everything about me, I hate. If I had the chance I would change how I look, how I think, my voice, how I talk, my personality; I'd change all of it without the blink of an eye. There's only one thing I wouldn't change: My ability to care for others above myself. There's no better feeling and it's truly my own redeeming quality. The fact that I can make my little brother laugh when he's having a bad day, it gives me the ability to smile. If only for a mere minute, I know there's one good thing I did.
That's how I live with myself. When I hurt someone, I have the exact opposite feeling and reaction (but that can be saved for another post). When I focus on myself, I don't see a person worth helping.....BUT, if I don't care for that person in the mirror (at least enough to keep them going and fighting); that person I stare at when brushing my teeth won't be able to help anyone ever again. My only redeeming quality would be gone. That's not something I'm ready to lose and so, I do the best I can to try and help me. Sometimes (like lately), I'm not doing a good job about it but I need to. Too many people count on me. I can't let them down like that. I don't know if looking at it like that will help you or if it's the healthiest way to do so, but it could be worth a shot.
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Thank you both. Any insight helps. I feel much older than my 42 years. I'm never going to stop fighting, but I feel pretty dang tired.
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I completely understand what you guys mean
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I'm not sure thinking of myself is going to be attainable. I can't shake the disgusted feeling I get when I do attempt something for myself. I've had 27 counselors in 25 years. I can't go to one now because I can't afford it. The Veterans Administration hospital has very poor counseling services. I've had one of them yell at me because I disagreed with something she said. Not a good way to keep me calm. I have PTSD also, so when someone shows anger towards me, I get pi**ed off instantly. The really hard part is not having anyone tangable to talk with or trust. Most of the time, I try to keep to myself. Bad part: people seem to be getting more rude, selfish, and cruel each day.
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I'm always thinking of others before myself.
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Dx: BP2 and MDD Current meds: 100mg Wellbutrin; 200mg Lamictal; 400mg Seroquel at night; Xanax 1mg/PRN; 100mg/PRN Trazodone at night for insomnia Diagnosed in May 2016 |
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Ty Mysterious.
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