I am not sure that I can feel safe here. There's a lot of MI shaming going on.

Do people realize that we are doing the best we can right now? Do you who point fingers know how others can sometimes not have the ability to get out of bed, let alone call for help?

Rant over.

It's a bad day and I should not even be here.

[Fuzzybear]

Some people speak before they think... They don't use their intelligence sometimes.
Some are just cruel

This in my observation is the same throughout this "fallen" world.

However there are many who do try their best

I'm not sure what you mean. If anything I see, instead of offering constructive encouragment, a propensity to encourage ill thinking. One can offer disagreement or gentle criticism and still be supportive. In fact, I think we owe it to do so when such situations warrant it. A prime example is when one sees another clearly delusional or of a danger to themselves. It disturbs me to see posts that celebrate and encourage the individual to believe going for help would be detrimental. I repeat, we OWE it to our fellow members to provide constructive encouragement - even when that is not what they themselves may think they need.

[Fuzzybear]

I wasn't completely sure what you meant either, sorry if I got it wrong,
One thing I abhor is when people judge, but I guess some don't even realise they are doing it..
Constructive advice can sometimes be heard or read wrongly if in a bad place... Again I don't know what's been going on. I'm sorry you're in pain

[Tsukiko]

Forgive me for intruding but what does MI stand for? I'm still trying to learn all of the abbreviations I come across on the forums.
Never mind. I'm guessing it means mental illness.

I'm sorry people. 99 percent of you are just fine.

[Fuzzybear]

It does mean mental illness (it took me ages to figure out some of the abbreviations - wb which "should" be obvious, but on a forum (not here) not so much so

Originally Posted by Tsukiko-chan

Forgive me for intruding but what does MI stand for? I'm still trying to learn all of the abbreviations I come across on the forums.
Never mind. I'm guessing it means mental illness.

[Frankbtl]

Hi sophiesmom

I hope you always come here on a bad day .............although I know some days depression makes you not want to do/hear/feel anything...........

I don't know specifics you're talking about but I've got to agree with some parts of the site/some people don't truly get how hard depression can really be sometimes.......but if they haven't had experience of it......although for some maybe they may have real good intentions, are seeing it as more "feeling down" and "not motivated" and trying some "tough love" in the aim of really wanting to support in the "long term"..........and all we can really do is say it as it is, and ultimately if they don't "get it", they're entitled to their opinion........as long as they aren't reportable/damaging opinions........and it's the one's who truly "get it" that matter...........that are actually fully worth your time attending to.
Depression at times can be more than hard enough without allowing your focus to drift to/stay with "unhelpful" responses.
So when things are hard, stick with the focus on those who do "get it", hey??
You can always "just" report damaging opinions............

And you know, kudos on speaking your mind............there could be at least one person out there re-evaluating their view of depression right now.



Alison

[Tsukiko]

Why would a psych forum have mental illness shaming? We're all here for basically the same purpose, so how can anyone criticize anyone else here for being mentally ill?

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[Fuzzybear]

[JohnCrow]

The only mentally ill person I shame is me

But that's mostly because I hate me so much and wish I would go away

But no matter what, every single morning, there I am, staring back from the mirror with my smug expression, seeming to say, "hey, guess what! You suck!"

[MtnTime2896]

Its not all bad but I do get what you mean. Some people don't understand and can't comprehend what it's like to go through what you're dealing with. Sometimes, people read something someone else wrote, it sounds too much like them, so they attack it. Shame it because they're ashamed of themselves and need to feel good somehow. Basic human instinct, punish others to improve your own state of mind.
Ignore those people and know that there are people here who've got your back. We're here to listen and help you with whatever tools we got.
Good luck to you.

[Prism Bunny]

I understand how you feel, but this forum is safe. I joined this forum because I am too afraid of allowing others to know about my MIs due to their whacky, uneducated, and harmless viewpoints on mental and medical health. Blame it on their Spiritualist backgrounds and beliefs. And I barely speak about my MIs with family anymore because the conversations never help. They say the same things; I say the same things. Nothing positive comes from it. Nowadays I work with my psychologist and psychiatrist, and I know that at least makes my life less difficult.

This is a safe place. Seriously.

But why say ninety-nine percent of the people on this forum are fine?

Edit: Since I have joined all these beautiful people have saved me from digging into myself further into a hole. In their hearts, they show genuine concern and love for others. If you fail to feel safe here, maybe you should take a vacation from the forum? That might help a little, plus if you have a therapist you can explain your situation, and he/she can work with you. And ignore people that try to harm you with their typed out words. They try to spit fire, but they will choke on the smoke. Trust me.

[speckofdust]

No answers here, but I will say that I find this forum to be filled with people who can relate to the reality of MI. I guess there will always be a few exceptions, but compared to the shaming and lack of understanding in the rest of my world, it's minimal. I hope you can look past the one percent! Group hug!

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i hardly see this.. i hardly see mental health shaming, or someone being unsupportive

i've seen it before... hell, i've seen it in 1 of my own threads.

but it is so rare

please stick around.... hugs

[mar33]

My brother used to MI shame me a lot without realizing it. I think it is just because people are ignorant of the great deal of pain they might cause you.

Also, you should be here. We'll help you friend.
good luck in the ugly world

[Avalonia708]

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

I'm sorry people. 99 percent of you are just fine.

I'm new here. I don't understand. Does this mean 99% of us aren't really suffering from mental illness? Why would we be here reaching out for help?
I apologize if I misinterpreted ...

Hi Avalonia....

This is an old post of mine from May of 2016

This was a follow-up to the original post about mental illness shaming. The 99 percent was in reference to those who I feel do NOT shame anyone here.

I prefer nobody else comment, thank you.

[MommaD]

Sophiesmom, this is exactly the place to come on a bad day.
If I said anything that made you feel unsafe, I deeply apologize. That is never my intention.
I hope better days are yours soon

Not at all MommaD...

This is an old post of mine, as I said. I'll try to get it closed asap