[Fuzzybear]

"Anger is part of relationships"



This was said to me by a therapist irl (not by the t irl who turned so mean..)

This, plus a few other things, put me off this therapist..

I "dumped this therapist before they dumped me"

Now I think maybe I was unwise ..

Ps I just asked papa bear - he thought it was a red flag as well...

I really didn't feel like putting up with another therapist (irl) being angry at me (and mean ..) for "no good reason" ..

Thoughts?

[whisperingskye]

I agree, I don't think anger should be part of a relationship. In fact I try to lose those people from my life where anger is part of our relationship. Easier said than done in some cases.

But certainly, if a therapist is using that as an excuse to be angry you should not be putting up with that!

Anger is not part of healthy relationships.

[Rohag]

What did that particular therapist mean by "Anger is part of relationships"? Did the T explain? Did you ask what they meant? Did you not feel comfortable asking what they meant?

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

This, plus a few other things, put me off this therapist.

I've added emphasis. Unclear communication plus those other things - plenty of reasons to look elsewhere.

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))

[wiretwister]

anger is a human emotion ... I do not want to be "angry " at myself or others .... I do not want others to be "angry" at me .... but ... it can happen ... it is not the anger that is unhealthy but what we do with it ... if it is there and we "swallow" it ... it will fester and eat a hole in you ... if we "blow" up at others with it ... relationships can be forever damaged ... if we ignore it ... then I think a part of us dies ... are we to accept hate and cruelity in the world ... or does it make us angry ... it is what we do with that most human of emotion ... that defines who we are ... JMO... your friend .. Tigger.

[Clara22]

What about this one? http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx

[little turtle]

fuzzy do you have anything else to say about this therapist...

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Rohag

What did that particular therapist mean by "Anger is part of relationships"? Did the T explain? Did you ask what they meant? Did you not feel comfortable asking what they meant?

I've added emphasis. Unclear communication plus those other things - plenty of reasons to look elsewhere.

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))

I think this t meant that if I "made" her angry she would express it

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by little turtle

fuzzy do you have anything else to say about this therapist...

It was hard for me to trust her.. she said I had "too many defences"

[Clara22]

Ahhh. OK. I don't get why therapists are judgemental

[Pastel Kitten]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I think this t meant that if I "made" her angry she would express it

That isn't right of her to imply. That sounds kind of like a threat to watch your tongue, which you shouldn't have to do in therapy you should feel free to speak your mind without fearing making the therapist angry.