I shared with someone....it didn't go well.

I knew I shouldn't have. And I kind of knew how it would go. But I did it anyway.

Just when you feel that your self-esteem couldn't get any lower, you manage a way to achieve the impossible...

[RainyDay107]

Thinking of you.

[Fuzzybear]

I'm sorry.. I tried that a while back.. didn't even share much at all.
It didn't go great

I just hate the vulnerability it makes me feel.

I think I'll keep things to myself from now on...

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

I just hate the vulnerability it makes me feel.

I think I'll keep things to myself from now on...

It's actually a "strength" to share something of ourselves..

Too bad some just don't understand

[wiretwister]

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

I shared with someone....it didn't go well.

I knew I shouldn't have. And I kind of knew how it would go. But I did it anyway.

Just when you feel that your self-esteem couldn't get any lower, you manage a way to achieve the impossible...

basically I feel it could be "releasing" to clear the air ... but you said , "I knew I shouldn't have" ,, were you a little self destructive or did you feel the risk was worth it if it went well ... I guess I'm asking what would have been your "ideal" outcome from sharing ... what did you hope to gain ...

ps: don't let others dictate your feelings about yourself ... it is not your fault others act the way they do ... your self esteem should come from who you really are inside ... not what impresses the fickle world ...

It was a risk I took. Now things are messed up, but that happens sometimes.

As far as self-esteem problems...well, if you are familiar they come from childhood issues based on the high expectations of those in authority...

A mess for sure, and the basis of most problems imho.

[wiretwister]

deep breaths ... I had my daughter in law here last weekend ... she (does not know) and she was calling people bipolar left and right ... and it was people she was making fun of ... it was hard to just sit there and keep talking ... my son (who does know) ... actually walked away with his head hung down ... I think it upset him more than me ...

yes she is now family ... there child is due soon ... but no ... she will not be told ... "she" would never handle it ... I hate to keep a "secret" , but I can find no real useful outcome from telling her ... maybe when she is older ...

to me things are messed up and I didn't tell ... you told and feel it messed up ... neither of us are at fault ... it is the "other" that can not handle what is ... not what they want or we want ... but what is ... I do not feel bad inside ... disappointed yes ... is my self image damaged ... no ... her cruelity toward others does nothing to lessen my self image ... it is her issue ... not mine ...

of course I have the rest of my life to "work" on her ... she will get there ... I am patient ... please don't blame yourself ... don't let others steal your joy ... love Tigger.

[whisperingskye]

I'm sorry.

I know it's not the same, but we are here for you.

Sorry you had a bad experience irl though

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

It was a risk I took. Now things are messed up, but that happens sometimes.

As far as self-esteem problems...well, if you are familiar they come from childhood issues based on the high expectations of those in authority...

A mess for sure, and the basis of most problems imho.

I am sorry it messed things up for you.

I don't know all the details so I could be making erroneous assumptions but...we learn from our mistakes. When we take risks and they go badly it can provide us with insights that we may not have had if we hadn't tried....<<hugs>>

I've never told anyone any of my issues because I know no one would understand and that would make me feel worse. People like a faking smile more than an honest cry

[Frankbtl]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

It's actually a "strength" to share something of ourselves..

Too bad some just don't understand

Hi sophiesmom

I'm all in with this!!!!

I'd say that you should be real proud that you had the bravery to share
It does take strength!!!
But I am really sorry that you were let down by the person you shared with, just try to see it as a fault on their part that they didn't hear, not a fault on your part that you spoke
What you did 101% took strength!!
And I hope that you'll find someone else who is able to hear and a way to share again. Please try to let this time, regardless of the results, empower you to try again

Alison

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[Clara22]

Hi Sophie's mom,
To me, I don't need to share. Some things are so visible. Peopl make assumptions and tell me useless stuff. Friends tell me useless stuff. Particularly infuriating that some of them are judgemental even they have never been through the things I am going through. To me the impossible is that they will understand me in the future. Simply they do not know what they are talking about. Trying to explain what is going on inside me it is like throwing my pearls before pigs. There is an esential part of my suffering that is understood only by peers like you.
They don't know and they will never know because they are not interested in learning, really, or because they just cannot do it. I feel alone, unless I think of my peers