[xthexdeadxonex]

I am a bit pissed and jealous right now. I've seen three different professionals about my depression. The first two couldn't prescribe anything, only give me therapy. This latest one cam do both. I've only seen her once so far though, she wants to wait at least one more appointment before she gives me any prescribe. I've tried therapy off and on for a totally of about two and a half years worth of therapy. It's not working. I told her that.

Yet yesterday, my husband went to his primary doctor for something totally unrelated to depression and anxiety, yet his doctor automatically prescribed him antidepressants, because he thinks my husband has depression or anxiety. What the heck?? I do have both for sure and I've been trying to get help for about four years now, and yet all I can manage to getis therapy that doesn't work! I've been trying to see about getting antidepressants for about a year now and still haven't gotten anything. Yet my husband doesn't even try and he manages to get then. I understand he does have his own problems and if they make him feel better, then great. I'm happy for him. But that pisses me off and makes me so jealous because some days I have to FORCE myself to get out of bed. Yet no one takes me freaking seriously and wants to give me anything to help! I mean maybe if I had antidepressants, I could focus more on therapy and other things toget better. But at this point, I can't, and therapy isn't working. So how am I struggling to get antidepressants, yet my husband, who's never seen a therapist, automatically gets a prescription??

[Sunflower123]

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. Is it possible for you to go to another doctor that is more on the ball?

[*Laurie*]

I agree, your situation sounds odd. Are you clearly describing exactly how badly you feel to your pdoc?

[dd665]

This is such a shame for you and it's upsetting.
Another doctor may see things differently - are you able to discuss your situation with someone else and get an alternative opinion ?

[xthexdeadxonex]

I don't have a primary doctor. I've been trying to find one, but everyone either says that they don't accept my insurance, they aren't accepting new patients, or they never call me back, even after I call multiple times. It's frustrating. As for therapists, I'm on my third one. The first two couldn't prescribe anything. But therapy alone didn't work. This latest one I'm seeing can't prescribe anything either, but there are psychaitrists at the same place that she can make an appointment with. She said that at this place, everyone eventually needs a psych evaluation from a psychiatrist anyway. That's just how they do it there. But I've only seen her once so far, so she doesn't want to rush meds on me i have told her though that I've seen two therapists before her, that therapy alone isn't doing anything. I've also told her that my mom had depression too, and that I've struggled for years. But I'm afraid they'll screw me around, waiting even more. Hopefully not...

When I called one primary doctor's office, the secretary asked why I was calling. I told her that I needed a primary doctor cuz I don't have one. She took some basic info, like my name, pooohone number, insurance, etc. And she asked me why specifically I wanted to see someone now. I told her antidepressants. She treated me like I was an addict, looking for pills. Even though I'm pretty sure you cant get high off antidepressants...

The area I live in, most people don't take mental illness seriously. And the health care systwm, especially for mental illness, sucks, to say the least. Half the time, no one really cares until you threaten suicide. But I don't want to have to check myself into an inpatient thing to actually get help. I shouldn't have to

[dd665]

This is dreadful and I had no idea it could be like this. Here in Britain it seems that we get an incredible amount of help in comparison and it makes me feel angry for you.
Something has to happen. You cannot go on like this and should you ?

What therapy have you had ? I had years of counselling and learned CBT / Cognitive Behavioural Therapy but have had no solution. I am about to start DBT / Dialectical Behavioural Therapy - have you heard about that and is there any chance it would help you ?

[jacky8807]

I'm shocked at your situation. usually they are pushing pills in the first 5 minutes .hope you get help soon!

[reb569]

Originally Posted by xthexdeadxonex

I am a bit pissed and jealous right now. I've seen three different professionals about my depression. The first two couldn't prescribe anything, only give me therapy. This latest one cam do both. I've only seen her once so far though, she wants to wait at least one more appointment before she gives me any prescribe. I've tried therapy off and on for a totally of about two and a half years worth of therapy. It's not working. I told her that.

Yet yesterday, my husband went to his primary doctor for something totally unrelated to depression and anxiety, yet his doctor automatically prescribed him antidepressants, because he thinks my husband has depression or anxiety. What the heck?? I do have both for sure and I've been trying to get help for about four years now, and yet all I can manage to getis therapy that doesn't work! I've been trying to see about getting antidepressants for about a year now and still haven't gotten anything. Yet my husband doesn't even try and he manages to get then. I understand he does have his own problems and if they make him feel better, then great. I'm happy for him. But that pisses me off and makes me so jealous because some days I have to FORCE myself to get out of bed. Yet no one takes me freaking seriously and wants to give me anything to help! I mean maybe if I had antidepressants, I could focus more on therapy and other things toget better. But at this point, I can't, and therapy isn't working. So how am I struggling to get antidepressants, yet my husband, who's never seen a therapist, automatically gets a prescription??

The first two therapists should have referred you to an MD or PDoc for prescriptions.

Does the new therapist have your history from your prior therapists? If not, she only has one session to come to a conclusion on what is going on. If you hadn't had an MD for awhile they may want you to rule out medical issues, do bloodwork etc before prescribing anything. Did she request a release of information from your prior therapists? Maybe she wants to see those records first.

Honestly I'd be more concerned about the fact that your husband was prescribed anti-depressants because he "seemed depressed and anxious".

I know it doesn't help to have to wait, but it may actually be the best thing in the long run. Hopefully its not to long to your next appointment?

[xthexdeadxonex]

Thanks, guys. No one referred me. They didn't like pills, so I guess that made them reluctant to help me get antidepressants. I have some info of my previous therapists to my new one, but I don't think she got a hold of any of them. So it looks like she just has what I have to say. Which I do understand why she wouldn't want to push antidepressants the first visit. I totally get that. She said that she never pushes those onto anyone, but if anyone ever wants them, she'll refer them to one of the psychiatrists there to get some. Like I said, everyone who goes there eventually needs a psych evaluation anyway. My next appointment is on Wednesday, so it's not too long of a wait now. But I'm not sure how long it'll be til I get a psych evaluation or anything like that. Honestly, if therapy helped, I wouldn't want pills. I didn't used to. But doing therapy for years and still not getting better, in fact getting worse, I would like some now. I can't focus on getting better, while I'm this depressed. I'm actually surprised that I've managed to ask for help so many times and push myself to find a better therapist and better help. Because sometimes, I have to force myself to get out of bed in the morning. I guess I'm just sick of feeling like this, so it's pushing me to ask more for help.

I would love to get blood work and stuff done, to rule out anything else. Though I don't think that it's any physical health problems causing my depression, unless it's something minor. I've suffered from it most of my life off and on, since I was little. I think it started after my mom died when I was six. That probably has something to do with it, but by now, I don't think that's the only reason for my depression either. But either way, I would like blood work and stuff done on me, just to prove that I'm healthy or not. If only I could actually find a doctor, instead of them just screwing me around.

And I've tried CBT. But it's hard to focus on doing things to get better when I feel like such crap. That's the reason I want antidepressants. I've heard that meds and therapy are a great combo, and that meds make it easier to focus on therapy and getting better. You're lucky you live somewhere that takes mental illness seriously. My state in the US is fairly conservative, and as I said, most people don't take it seriously at all.

[*Laurie*]

You shouldn't have to check yourself into inpatient to get meds, but you might have to, in order to expedite the process. Or, at least go to your ER and tell them how bad you feel.

[reb569]

Originally Posted by xthexdeadxonex

Thanks, guys. No one referred me. They didn't like pills, so I guess that made them reluctant to help me get antidepressants. I have some info of my previous therapists to my new one, but I don't think she got a hold of any of them. So it looks like she just has what I have to say. Which I do understand why she wouldn't want to push antidepressants the first visit. I totally get that. She said that she never pushes those onto anyone, but if anyone ever wants them, she'll refer them to one of the psychiatrists there to get some. Like I said, everyone who goes there eventually needs a psych evaluation anyway. My next appointment is on Wednesday, so it's not too long of a wait now. But I'm not sure how long it'll be til I get a psych evaluation or anything like that. Honestly, if therapy helped, I wouldn't want pills. I didn't used to. But doing therapy for years and still not getting better, in fact getting worse, I would like some now. I can't focus on getting better, while I'm this depressed. I'm actually surprised that I've managed to ask for help so many times and push myself to find a better therapist and better help. Because sometimes, I have to force myself to get out of bed in the morning. I guess I'm just sick of feeling like this, so it's pushing me to ask more for help.

I would love to get blood work and stuff done, to rule out anything else. Though I don't think that it's any physical health problems causing my depression, unless it's something minor. I've suffered from it most of my life off and on, since I was little. I think it started after my mom died when I was six. That probably has something to do with it, but by now, I don't think that's the only reason for my depression either. But either way, I would like blood work and stuff done on me, just to prove that I'm healthy or not. If only I could actually find a doctor, instead of them just screwing me around.

And I've tried CBT. But it's hard to focus on doing things to get better when I feel like such crap. That's the reason I want antidepressants. I've heard that meds and therapy are a great combo, and that meds make it easier to focus on therapy and getting better. You're lucky you live somewhere that takes mental illness seriously. My state in the US is fairly conservative, and as I said, most people don't take it seriously at all.

Hopefully she will come through for you on Wednesday and you can get an appointment with a pdoc soon. Best of luck.

[xthexdeadxonex]

Thanks for the replies, everyone. I'm going to confine with the therapy, obviously. And I also got an appointment with a psychiatrist there. Unfortunately, that appointment isn't for another month. So I'll have to wait some more for antidepressants. I guess its good that I did manage to get an appointment. I just didn't think it would take so long, since I've already "gotten into" this place. Its better than nothing, of course. Still kind of makes me a bit mad though. I hope I don't have too hard of a time waiting that long.

[*Laurie*]

I don't blame you for feeling angry and frustrated!