Same things different day

My days seem to be the same everyday!


I'm broke.

I'm lonely.

I don't have friends.

I'm getting old and no goals have been made.

I'm an immigrant.

I'm ugly.

Insecure.

Hi there, Heyitseli. Those are a lot of burdens to bear. When you're feeling bad about yourself, it's very hard to get out of it. And you don't have friends and you're in a foreign country. It's really difficult for you. You need to take it one small step at a time. Do you have a job? Why not just try smiling at people and saying good morning or something like that. Don't expect too much. Just look upon it as an exercise you are doing to build up your social skills. Don't worry if they don't say hello back. Try someone else. Or say hello again next time. Just decide that you will smile at people and say hello if you can. You don't have to say hello to everyone. Just one or two people and build up from there. Just take it easy and slowly. I think you'll get there in the end. Don't push yourself too hard. One day at a time.

Hello Heyitseli, sorry you are feeling so depressed. I get that way too. Heck I fit at least 5 out of 7 of your criteria for depression. I hope things improve for you. Good luck!

Welcome. I see this is only your 2nd post. I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. I like the poster's advice about saying hello to people and getting to know the people around you. What if you made a small goals list and take baby steps toward the life you want? Is that doable? Maybe you could get some self-help books about your insecurities and how to build self esteem. That's four things on your list knocked out. Could you look for a higher paying job or look for ways to cut expenses? I see that you're an immigrant. Is this causing you problems? Can you see a doctor to see if you have a diagnosis and maybe start medication to give you some relief? I hope you start feeling better and I'm here if you want to talk.

We all feel lost in life. That is how it works, unfortunately. But that does not define who you are. Buck up my friend, the best moment of your life is yet to come

Hey, Heyitseli, talk to us. You've already made so many friends here. We are here for you. Go out there and give it a try. And tell us about it, good out bad. Can't wait.

I can get to feeling like that too.

i'm agoraphobic, (and housebound by it), so on days like today where it is lovely outside, it would be lovely to go for a walk, or to go to the seaside, or to sit out and watch the birdies.. but I can't do any of that. I have to stay in and keep myself amused indoors.

I also don't have goals set, and I often wonder if part of the reason my days are the same, is because I make (or choose) for them to be the same.

like, I always choose to eat bacon for breakfast. I always choose to play my trivia, I always choose to watch emmerdale

but.. what if I didn't?

sure I like my rooteen because it's set, and I know what i'm doing, but just imagine

variety..

I also want to add on this thread 1 of my biggist pet pieves

people saying to me, " well, you choose not to go out"

you try having crippling agoraphobia

not easy

Not much has changed I talked to my boyfriend about how I feel and he says I'm being a cry baby..

I haven't gotten a job yet... cause I don't have a social # or have anyone to help me