[gonegirl99]

Mother accused me of having autism. I went in for an evaluation this Thursday. I was happy because I was thinking finally I can go get this depression/social anxiety thinking over with and helped in some way. Went in a different psychologist was there. Could tell right off the back she was not warm and friendly.

Long story short my covert narcissistic mother was there unfortunately too, saying I have asd when there are no signs of it. She's said that **** before knowing it made me upset. The therapist I had at 16 said I just was experiencing anxiety now my mother is turning it around and lying. I clearly said I would make friends if I just felt more comfortable around others. But as usual I've been ignored and not listened to.

[gonegirl99]

I've always been able to read the emotions of others to the point where I fear getting negative looks because I don't want to be judged. My mother has judged me all of my life. I used to be a social butterfly then had it in my head by middle school that I wasn't good enough and I needed more people to like me/validate me so I stayed in the background. I know how to socialize and all that normal ****. I just fear people backstabbing me if I become to close. Now she wants me to get some asd interview and testing when I am objecting. Wow. I walked out of the first therapist's office feeling relieved like maybe the world wasn't against me and I could socialize again.

Now I've been monitoring myself, looking at myself through the eyes of my ****ing mother. Everything I've done has been analyzed and inflated and then made to look as though my reaction to growing up under my mothers roof, wanting to retreat, is all a problem of the brain not of the household I was raised in.

This just puts me further into a depression. I feel like I don't have a voice. My perspective hasn't mattered for the longest. Can anyone explain to me what the symptoms are of high functioning g autism or aspergers? Because I am sure I don't have it.

[gonegirl99]

Oh yeah and the funny thing is that we were both given a sheet to fill out for asd the relative form and the patient form. My mother refuses to answer the questions but kept telling me to fill the sheet out.

[pegasus]

Hi, autism is usually picked up in early childhood. Aspergers is often picked up in the teen years. Has your mother explained why she is going down this route? Some people find it hard to accept mental health issues and look for other causes. Are you an adult now? If so, you can get the help you feel you need yourself. It sounds like you know yourself what the issues are, go see your doctor and enquire about medication and therapy. Good luck!

[Misterpain]

Not knowing you or your mom or the exact circumstance , I have to wonder ,this from what you say is a kind of ongoing "quest" of your mother to have you evaluated ,is it possible there is something more troubling than covert narcissism going on ,say munchausen by proxy ? From what you describe that's my gut reaction ?
It is a form of abuse and possibly a devastating form of abuse because you as the victim of it could be diagnosed with something ? and marginalized for the rest of your life with an inappropriate "diagnosis" some tips

Until the age of majority you are under her thumb and she can have you evaluated till she is blue in the face,if nothing is there nothing will be found.
If you do not feel comfortable with the evaluator for any reason you can request someone else ? Easiest most proffesional way to express this is just by saying " i do not feel i can have a theraputic relationship with you and would like to terminate this session and resume with someone else " dont lie or be evasive,disrespectfull because those could be construed as something else.
Once you reach the age of majority you can refuse to participate , her only recourse would be to "throw you out" any parent that does that is not someone you want to be trusting of anyway .Psychologist are trained to "look and listen" and not be hasty , so participate, at worst they figure out something isn't right with mom and due to mandatory reporting will notify child protective and the police to investigate , then you are you are free to work on your anxiety with them ,at best they disregard your mother entirely and start working on what is troubling you .
They can help with anything you consider a problem ( something that Is holding you back from your full potential or happiness in life).
Try and remember that adopting a cat takes paperwork and proof you will be a good home, to be a parent takes much less (no paperwork or proof of a good home or stable life of any kind).

Be carefull stay safe !

[Sunflower123]

I'm sorry you're having this problem with your mom. If you aren't on the autism spectrum, she's just wasting your time and her money. What if you went through the evaluation knowing it won't show any signs of autism? That should shut her up and then you can get the help you really need. Do you live with her? She sounds toxic to you. Just my thoughts. Sending big hugs.

[gonegirl99]

Originally Posted by pegasus

Hi, autism is usually picked up in early childhood. Aspergers is often picked up in the teen years. Has your mother explained why she is going down this route? Some people find it hard to accept mental health issues and look for other causes. Are you an adult now? If so, you can get the help you feel you need yourself. It sounds like you know yourself what the issues are, go see your doctor and enquire about medication and therapy. Good luck!

Because I do not have any "close" friends. I'm an aquarius and aquarians tend to be detached. But still I've had friends and acquaintances throughout childhood yet now I've shut down because of feeling rejected from peers. and when I decided there's no point in making friends and I'll just be alone, my stupid mother had a problem with that and is trying to make me "normal" like everyone else.

[gonegirl99]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I'm sorry you're having this problem with your mom. If you aren't on the autism spectrum, she's just wasting your time and her money. What if you went through the evaluation knowing it won't show any signs of autism? That should shut her up and then you can get the help you really need. Do you live with her? She sounds toxic to you. Just my thoughts. Sending big hugs.

Yes unfortunately I do. Me and my sister do, yet i'm trying to save up money to get out of here. I said it would be a waste of money. I'm actually afraid that being super creative is somehow related to being autistic but I know I don't have any other symptoms that I've read about online.

[Misterpain]

I know this is for toddlers but it might help ease your mind:
https://www.autismspeaks.org/about-u...speaks-website
They also have an 1 800 number you could reach out to , unfortunately nothing is more scary then thevfear of someone manipulating you and leveraging your most basic fear of "am I all right " its really cruel to do .

And the one thing I did not mention in my previous post if you are really against this and can figure out how to survive somrplsce else be it a shelter or program to help abused women start over you could take your mom to court and become emancipated meaning your not of age yet but the court declares you a free adult capable of your own decisions .
Thinking of you !

[Fuzzybear]