[Fuzzybear]

I should be one of the "leaders" here... as in someone who is always supportive and not "needy" or ever "at risk "

But I'm scared

How do you cope?



I look forward to receiving something supportive, anything. I wish I could just move on from this space

Even a hug would help to show I'm not completely alone in not "coping"

I would call a "hotline" but right now I can't

Peace

[Singin' In the Rain]

Oh, Fuzzybear ... I'm really sorry for your pain. I wish there was something I could do to help.

I know the battle of going up and down, with down being more prevalent, is debilitating. I know you may feel like you don't belong here or are worthless, but neither is true. (And please don't feel that you're being "needy." You're not.)

Depression masks our self-perception and tells us things that aren't true. When I'm my most depressed, I convince myself that the people in my life hate me. However, the feeling doesn't last because eventually I realize that I was wrong. Of course, I will eventually be depressed again, but living for the happy times is what I focus on.

So many people would miss you if you weren't here. There are so many great characteristics that you may not see because of how you are feeling, but that others would (and do!) see. If you don't stop feeling this way, please, please talk to a professional. I know my reply is no help, but know that I'm rooting for you. I'm so sorry.

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks so much . I did something I haven't done for a long time, a self care strategy. Thank you again for your kind and supportive reply, it means a lot to me

I haven't had much luck with professionals (so far)

It's okay, Fuzzy. I may never have the right words, but I'll always come sit with you, whether you're being a leader or needer.

[Rohag]

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))

Among the most impressive aspects of your presence here is how supportive you have been to others while living in a state of near-constant psychic agony.

As for ... managing the unmanageable, you've reacted badly to almost every medication ever prescribed you, and your experiences with therapists have been ... non-therapeutic.

We have far more to learn from you about surviving depression+anxiety, etc., than you have to learn from us.

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))

[lotusblossom19]

We all need help sometimes. It doesn't make you weak. Your contributions here are appreciated. Clearly your presence here is valued. I thank you for your support and offer mine in return. Please be gentle with yourself.

[Shazerac]

(((Fuzzy))) even leaders need a shoulder to lean on.

[little turtle]

hugs fuzzy...you are a leader....and leaders need support also...you can be weak or strong ..it is ok..
I'm scared...we need each other here...

[ravencrow]

Hi fuzzy think we are in the same boat as many others
it's hard if you wanna chat pm me .
A Leader is a Dealer in Hope" we are are all leaders
supporters battling the same demons in a myriad of ways * big hugs Fuzzy

[TishaBuv]

I've seen you help many others. You are always there with dancing bears, and it's very comforting.

I'm so sorry to see how much you suffer.

We're all here with issues, yet helping each other too. It's like a support group. You were the first profile I noticed on here. I was cautiously curious about the bear...

[Teddy Bear]

Sorry your suffering

[CepheidVariable]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

How do you cope?

Erratically. Often poorly. You're not alone in that.
(I typed some more ... but it wasn't really helpful)

Fuzzybear


Maybe sometime you can tell us about the self-care strategy you mentioned, if it feels okay?

[Fuzzybear]

Thank you everyone

[little turtle]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I should be one of the "leaders" here... as in someone who is always supportive and not "needy" or ever "at risk "

But I'm scared

How do you cope?



I look forward to receiving something supportive, anything. I wish I could just move on from this space

Even a hug would help to show I'm not completely alone in not "coping"

I would call a "hotline" but right now I can't

Peace

you are my leader...I am scared

[Winterbritt]

I hope you're feeling better today.

I've noticed in my life that there's something about taking care of others that makes me feel braver, and more in control. I was really scared to ride a roller coaster one time but then my niece was too short and had to ride in my car. She was nervous too. As soon as I started reassuring her I was like "we got this." I like rose to the occasion. One time I had to do an internship at a nursing home. I was afraid it would worsen my depression to see all the old people, but it actually made me feel so much better to help to cheer up others.

I'm new here but it sounds like you're kind of the person who goes around helping other people and encouraging them. That's a really noble position. Maybe that's your coping strategy. Even heroes get tired sometimes though. Maybe you're just tired.

Another one of my coping strategies is to rename my feelings. Like if I get really sad over someone's death. I say, "maybe this isn't sadness. maybe it's just love." and I realize that it could be either, but that love is a much kinder feeling to think you have and causes a lot less stress for me, because i stop thinking that I have some problem to fix and I just feel like a very loving person.

hope you find some relief

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((( little turtle ))))))))))

Thank you for believing in me. I'm sorry you're scared. It's a horrible feeling and I can relate all too well.

[ProudlyPersevering]

Fuzzy,
You are a leader by all the support you have shown to others. Needing some support in return does not make you "needy" it let you know you are in touch with your needs and asking for what is helpful.
TAKE CARE! ((HUGS))