[Psyclox]

How does one move on in life, forget the past and look to the future? I have done things in my past that I'm not proud of, the things I've done would make any person think twice about wanting to know me. So I ask you, how do u put the past behind you?

[Perna]

The present is literally the only part we have. If you are different in the present, no one, including ourselves, can live in the past so it ends up just being part of the whole learning experience of Life. People you meet now aren't going to know that Psyclox from the past so your past is going to seem "different" to them.

Scroll down the page here to "Mistakes" and read: http://www.mcwilliams.com/books/books/life1/lf1_3a.htm

[_Hope_]

i don't think we should ever forget our past (even though i agree it sounds like that would make life easier) I think we should reflect on our past, get a reasonable perspective, learn what we can from it and then find a box to put the memories in and file them on a self in our brain, just in case we ever need to reference them again.

That is much easier to say than to do. Some of my horrible past memories i have been able to do this with, others i am still working on. The thing i have learned about trying to get better is none of it is easy and some of things i have gone through trying to get better pretty much suck.

have hope for the future. and if you are running low on hope come here to read posts or to chat and borrow hope from someone else.

Linda

[Psyclox]

Thanx to the both of u I really appreciate what u had to say, and perna that webpage is very powerful thanx, I agree with what it said.

[Soidhonia]

(((PSYCLOX))). I am sorry that you are suffering at this time. One of the ways that I have found to put my past behind me, is to learn that no matter what mistakes I HAVE made in the past I try not to repeat the Past any more often then necessary, and I try not to let the PAST control the outcome of the Goals I have set for the future. I have also chosen wisely to stay away from things that would cause me to repeat my past such as Alcohol, or other things that would cause me to lose hope of the future Goals that I have set for myself, or that could cause harm to my well being either mentally or physically. Sometimes if you get around the right people and get the support you need to let you live in the present that helps Greatly to heal the wounds of the past, when you hang with the past crowd that causes you to just live in the past it stunts your conditioning and reasoning to move on in a consistent and reasonable manner, and brings your growth of competency and self esteem to a lower level. Since you are not being allowed to submit yourself to competent endeavours, by being engaged with people from your past at this time and you ae always being reminded that you are failing yourself, and you are not having your emotional and physical needs met by hanging on to the past or these people reminding you fo the past because it just consistently brings a sense of discontentment. I hope that you are attending AA and other meetings to ehlp you feel more inspired that you can presevere if YOU make the right decisions in life. Rayna(Here at Psych Central) Has started a lovely Group for AA and I feel that you could really benefit from the group in recognizing that forgiveness comes from awareness, and I am sure you will get something good out of the group since you know the group attendees at this time, that have been your support in the past. Please call your therapist if you are still not feeling well. Takec are. Soidhonia ..

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((( Psyclox ))))))))))))))))

[Psyclox]

Thank u so much all I am trying to quiet these habits of mine, my drinking has decreased signficantly and well the other things, well lets just say that will atke time, my past has made me who I am and once I can put my past behind me I can then look to the future, but at this moment in time it doesn't look like it will be any time soon.