feeling really depressed.

today is my nan's 95th birthday, and all of my family are out celebrating at a chinese place (they were allowed to take her out the nursing home for the day)

and i'm... not their

because my family don't want me their

I tried to phone the nursing home earlier to wish her a happy birthday, but was told in no polite way I had no right calling.

she has dimentia and I cann't even be with her.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry to hear this.. you must feel pretty lonely right now.

[Sunflower123]

I'm sorry this happened to you. Would they accept a birthday card or flowers at the nursing home? You're not alone. We are here to support you. Sending big hugs.

[*Laurie*]

Can you go visit your nan?

[Shazerac]

So sorry you can't be with your nan, and your family doesn't want you there

[childofchaos831]

I'm so sorry... that must hurt very much.

When my granny was in the nursing home, with dementia, I was really the only person that went to see her regularly. I can't even imagine not being allowed that.

Is there something you can do today, for you and to honor her? Maybe she had a favorite meal that she would cook... you could make it for yourself. That kind of thing.

I wish there was a way to make your family not mean, like a magic wand or fairy dust, but there's not. The situation isn't nice, at all, but it is what it is. So, taking care of yourself is what's important.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by childofchaos831

I'm so sorry... that must hurt very much.

When my granny was in the nursing home, with dementia, I was really the only person that went to see her regularly. I can't even imagine not being allowed that.

Is there something you can do today, for you and to honor her? Maybe she had a favorite meal that she would cook... you could make it for yourself. That kind of thing.

I wish there was a way to make your family not mean, like a magic wand or fairy dust, but there's not. The situation isn't nice, at all, but it is what it is. So, taking care of yourself is what's important.

your post made me smile, and I needed that.

trust me, if I had a magic wand and some fairy dust, their would be so many changes around here

starting with a little bit more stability..

how i'd actually accomplish that, I don't know

but the power of magic

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I'm so sorry to hear this.. you must feel pretty lonely right now.

I don't know how I feel, or how i'm meant to feel.

I mean I suppose I should feel relieved that i'm not spending the day being abused by my mother, and that i'm actually safe.

but then

I wish I could be with my nan

it's so important

being 95 is quite a big accomplishment

Originally Posted by *Laurie*

Can you go visit your nan?

I live too far away (at least a 2 hour drive)

if I was to make that trip, i'd need to know they'd let me in

they won't let me phone, so I honestly don't know

[Shazerac]

I wish I could send you some fairy dust.