[captaineo]

My dear friends, again I write and I share my thoughts with you seeking advice for my heart. I’m a divorcee with two beautiful daughters from an interracial marriage living in Japan, I’m S/A Venezuelan. Very very different cultures, though I love Japan. And I mean I love it but society can easily be cruel to foreigners in a passive aggressive manner and somehow I lost my self and lost my family in the way.
Now I’m back here and I can see my kids very every now and then. And I have a new person I’m seeing and she has been great to me, but is difficult for me as I still love my ex wife so much. And i miss my kids, my father died two months ago and my ex didn’t say anything. I don’t know what to do. The holidays are coming, and all is too overwhelming.
What do you guys recommend should I cut off my current relation with this new angel of a person?
Please appreciate your advise

Originally Posted by captaineo

My dear friends, again I write and I share my thoughts with you seeking advice for my heart. I’m a divorcee with two beautiful daughters from an interracial marriage living in Japan, I’m S/A Venezuelan. Very very different cultures, though I love Japan. And I mean I love it but society can easily be cruel to foreigners in a passive aggressive manner and somehow I lost my self and lost my family in the way.
Now I’m back here and I can see my kids very every now and then. And I have a new person I’m seeing and she has been great to me, but is difficult for me as I still love my ex wife so much. And i miss my kids, my father died two months ago and my ex didn’t say anything. I don’t know what to do. The holidays are coming, and all is too overwhelming.
What do you guys recommend should I cut off my current relation with this new angel of a person?
Please appreciate your advise

I guess I don't know everything about your situation. From what I read here I wonder why would you want to possibly cut off your relationship with whom you are seeing now? Did your ex wife just leave you? Does your ex wife care to speak to you now?

In my opinion it would be hard for me to just cut out a good relationship, unless if it's something to be suspicious about. Depression can cause difficulties in relationships. But also depression can very much cause you to believe that you don't deserve something good. That seems to be the case for me.

I hope I've been some help to you.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'd suggest to continue to pursue this new relationship. Your ex is your ex for a reason, and it's not so likely you two will get back together. I'd suggest to move on

I'm sorry you still can't see your kids

[mountainstream]

[Fuzzybear]

You do deserve happiness .... those who haven’t experienced dysfunctional (cruel) families will never get it (and some will never care)

[captaineo]

Thank you my dear friends for your loving advice, is very tough specially when Christmas comes around. My ex doesn’t talk to me, sometimes an email every now and then couple of sentences about where to see the kids. Etc but I see her my heart still skips a beat. Is so tough. Yet this new angel in my life is just a beautiful person, nice to have someone around watch movies or tv or read something together but in the back of my mind all these thoughts about how I loss my kids.