My friend is a wonderful person but sometimes I can't stand the constant negativity. I try to be supporting but I get so angry because he throws it back in my face. He says I can't do anything so what's the point of going to me? I don't know what to say. I tell him maybe you need professional help or stronger medication. He says he feel more dead than alive. Whenever I talk postively, sometimes he talks back in a negative way. Complaining about life. Perhaps I'm being unfair but I just want the best for him. There's only so much I can do. I can offer him hugs and an ear but if he's going to be negative all the time and not help himself, what can I do? I feel so angry. Do I have to put up with it or just separate myself? I can't let this get me down too.

[Sunflower123]

True, you can’t let this bring you down. Can he try a new therapist or re-evaluate his medication. What he’s doing isn’t helping. You could tell him you care for him and are there to support him but that you can’t deal with the constantly negativity. You can’t
support him if you go down as well. Best wishes.

[icreateidestroy]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

My friend is a wonderful person but sometimes I can't stand the constant negativity. I try to be supporting but I get so angry because he throws it back in my face. He says I can't do anything so what's the point of going to me? I don't know what to say. I tell him maybe you need professional help or stronger medication. He says he feel more dead than alive. Whenever I talk postively, sometimes he talks back in a negative way. Complaining about life. Perhaps I'm being unfair but I just want the best for him. There's only so much I can do. I can offer him hugs and an ear but if he's going to be negative all the time and not help himself, what can I do? I feel so angry. Do I have to put up with it or just separate myself? I can't let this get me down too.

You are amazing in doing this for your friend. It doesn't make sense to keep doing it if it is taking you down.

I suffer from depression myself and I don't dump this on my best friend, I share the way I feel with him, and he makes suggestions and tries to help in ways he can.

I think my wife suffers the most because she sees what I go through and finds it difficult that she is unable to help. I also take a lot of guilt for the situation and that it isn't fair to her and her life isn't a seemingly normal life like everyone else's.

I have even seriously thought and suggested that we should separate because I feel it's not fair to her.

I have only recently sought professional help and hope my situation will improve.

In your case, you should sincerely let your friend know how this makes you feel and encourage him to get help or therapy.

Good luck.

[MickeyCheeky]

I understand it must be a really difficult situation. I don't think neither of you have the blame in this case. All you can do, I suppose, is insist for him to get professional help. Support him if you can, but if it becomes too much remember to take care of yourself - and don't feel guilty about it.

[BlueMoonBlueEarth]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

Whenever I talk postively, sometimes he talks back in a negative way.

Depression can cause people to doubt anything positive and interpret it in a negative way. In this scenario, maybe your friend is interpreting your positive talk as ordering him to be positive? Let him know you're there for him, and see how he takes that.

Originally Posted by happycheeks

Perhaps I'm being unfair but I just want the best for him.

Congratulations for trying to support your friend through his depression. Hopefully somebody else can give you more helpful tips than me.

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

True, you can’t let this bring you down. Can he try a new therapist or re-evaluate his medication. What he’s doing isn’t helping. You could tell him you care for him and are there to support him but that you can’t deal with the constantly negativity. You can’t
support him if you go down as well. Best wishes.

I can ask him. He has mentioned something about neouro something doctor doesn't care. He said in status that he may need to sectioned or kept in. He speaks french so I can't remember the word. Thank you

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I understand it must be a really difficult situation. I don't think neither of you have the blame in this case. All you can do, I suppose, is insist for him to get professional help. Support him if you can, but if it becomes too much remember to take care of yourself - and don't feel guilty about it.

Thank you I wish he could be happy like he was because he doesn't deserve to be totally depressed. I was thinking maybe he needs to be diagnosed for something and put on some good medications to help get back on track. I will do all I can

Originally Posted by icreateidestroy

You are amazing in doing this for your friend. It doesn't make sense to keep doing it if it is taking you down.

I suffer from depression myself and I don't dump this on my best friend, I share the way I feel with him, and he makes suggestions and tries to help in ways he can.

I think my wife suffers the most because she sees what I go through and finds it difficult that she is unable to help. I also take a lot of guilt for the situation and that it isn't fair to her and her life isn't a seemingly normal life like everyone else's.

I have even seriously thought and suggested that we should separate because I feel it's not fair to her.

I have only recently sought professional help and hope my situation will improve.

In your case, you should sincerely let your friend know how this makes you feel and encourage him to get help or therapy.

Good luck.

I feel bad in a way because I seem a bit unfair. I will do all I can to help. If he wants to live, he will have to fight hard to get well. I have seen the change in him. He used to enjoy playing the guitar and singing but he tells me he doesn't enjoy that. It's like he wants to die. I'll keep my eye on him. Thank you for your reply.

[Fuzzybear]