[mulan]

What if I can't like people? People make me tired.
This past days social anxiety has been partially on check, two days in a row, it isn't bad... But Wednesday is my trigger day.
So, anxiety lessened, angry increased. I am randomly angry, I should accept the difference and the traits I don't appreciate on others, but I turn my disapproval into some sort of dislike towards the person. And obviously it's almost impossible to like anyone this way.
I don't express my feelings, I don't treat anyone badly (I hope), it's just something I feel and I think about when I am at home.
J annoys me because he loves to be in the spot light, S annoys me because she tries to portrait herself has the perfect person and the victim of every situation (natural things got imperfections) and she cares to much about the outside or admires people based on their looks and status, J2 is too much enthusiastic, past the point, every time she speaks, and there is something about her I find threatening (don't know what)...
I suspect some of this angry is some countertransference feeling associated with my low mood.

If I had more life and mental energy/happiness of my own I wouldn't mind this much.

[Yzen]

I have a coworker that is impatient and wants to take shortcuts to speed up the work. She also likes to bring attention to herself and her accomplishments. I get irritated at her regularly and try to accept that she isn't going to change just because I want her to be different. Her perspective and experience in life is different. She wants the feeling accomplishment so much that she wants to do everything fast. I am opposite because I fear that people will see my work as flawed, so I spend more time on my tasks trying to insure there are no imperfections. She probably gets irritated at my methodical pace.

If I only look at how her behavior causes rework and bothers me, I will have a difficult time interacting with her. If I focus on possible reasons she does what she does, I feel more compassion towards her instead of irritation. I think the reason she wants attention and to rush through her work is because she has a deep need for praise. I can guess she might not have been praised much in her life, so she needs this extra attention and praise to help her self-esteem. She might be similar to the person J you mentioned that needs attention to feel good about himself.

I know I do things out of fear and anxiety that probably seem strange to others. I feel people behave in these ways because it helps them with a need that they haven't been able to resolve. It helps to feel more accepting when I think about others in that way.

[Fuzzybear]

[little turtle]

mulan how are you treating yourself...

[Shazerac]

Being irritable is a sucky part of depression. That being said, I see no reason to try and force yourself to like people. Especially in a work situation, you don’t have to like them at all. All you have to do is is tolerate and get along well enough to function at the job.