Bad member

I just wanted to say I'm sorry for being such a bad member

Wah? Oh my goodness, no. Don't say that please, whispershadow. You're a very supportive caring person and, on top of it, you have your own struggles as well! I'd like you to banish any negative thoughts as to what kind of member you are, please. No apology at all is necessary.

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—-there is no such thing as being a bad member.

I disagree and this is the bad member <<<<<<<<<<<<

I agree that you're not a bad member. I saw that you posted something on the couch a day or two ago and no one responded...please don't take that personally. It's happened to me before too. That thread gets going in some odd directions sometimes. You're valuable to the boards and I hope you stick around.

You are so many things but bad ain't one of them. I don't understand 'bad'? Why bad?

I can't think of anything bad to say about you whispershadow.

Wow, I was surprised to read this. You’re one of the most consistently thoughtful of others and kind members here

And Queen Fuzzy PAWS is an excellent Judge of Character

GROWL at whoever planted those noxious seeds.. GROWL

PS I hadn’t read all the posts in this thread when I posted that.. if it’s partly because a post wasn’t acknowledged, I think that happens to almost everyone sometimes.

But I understand the pain of feeling “bad” - nobody in this thread is “bad”

What does “bad” member even mean? How can that be possible? ❤️

Basically when I have a freakout while logged in (which happened a few days ago) that then makes my brain start up with the "bad forum member" thing, not helped by my past experiences on some other forums where I got labelled a bad member because admin's pet member decided she didn't like me and kept trying to trigger me to the point of me getting banned.

I don't feel safe on this forum today anyway. Something happened yesterday.

It's been a year+ since I was in Psych Central chat however I don't recall a bad forum member. Granted, there are individuals who struggle with the general concept of good vs. bad. I was recently diagnosed, on top of my mental health challenges, as having early stages of kidney failure at age 66. The shock of the news sent my mind automatically into negative rumination that at some time I was a bad person and I was being punished.

Then the years of counseling and all the great compassionate folks I've chatted with in this forum over-road the fear. There are some trouble makers in every forum - just don't be so hard on yourself. If you feel like you said something inappropriate, make amends and move on. If you feel you are being harassed and don't feel safe in this forum, PM one of the moderators to discuss your concerns confidentially. We're all here for either seek help and/or to provide help to others. None of us wake up in the morning sstarting out the day saying we're going to be a bad person. They have larger fenced in facilities for the bad people. Take care and the ball is always in your court as to what advice to consider and what to discard. From my seat, it sounds like many here care about you! Enjoy these comments!!!

I'm sorry that happened to you on that site. Whatever happened here, I'm sorry for that, too.

I feel like a "bad member" 80% of the time. For me, I'm not entirely sure why.

If you need to talk but don't feel safe on the boards, you can always PM me. If you're uncomfortable with that, then PM someone you are comfortable with.

I hope you're okay, especially since I've never seen you once to be a bad member here. Take care.

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Oh behave whisper (sorry if this a bit too aspie... I mean it in a nice way) you were one of the first friends I made on here and you were and have been nothing but supportive as far as I'm concerned!

I admit I try and help others, it's not in me to try and make others feel bad, idk if this makes sense, I need to go to bed

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I'm such a freaking waste of space.

Trying to cook something different today and it's turning into a disaster already :/

I can extend the bad member thing to being a complete flaming waste of space outside of forums as well.

I am always burning things. Completely forget they are in the oven.

I bet there are some things, you are really good at.

You're the best whispershadow in the whole world.

I am a disaster at cooking. I tried to cook cheese sauce and it turned out so horrible that I had to throw it away.

Basically, I nearly set the pan on fire because I forgot it was on the highest setting and it had chicken in it

I'm a dumbass

Oh whisper
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I managed to somehow burn macaroni once... macaroni. Generally I'm not a great cook, mostly because of how forgetful I get. I have to have someone help me or set a bunch of reminders on my phone. I'm sure you wouldn't call me a dumbass for that, whisper. Be easy on yourself.

Whisper's a bad member and everyone knows what happens to bad members.