[Fuzzybear]

I can’t seem to “move past” this unrelenting anxiety.

Keeping it all in my head is not at all helpful. Grrrrrrr

I try meditating, mindfulness etc (sigh)

The trigger icon is ... I’m feeling sad and scared. I’m not “doing well”

I wish I could freakin hibernate

I hope I don’t have to consult a doctor about the physical stuff

“To grow a thick skin” .. (sigh)

Or .. worse .. “your lament has been heard again” ...

How freakin “supportive” - I do not dish out “support” like that to others...

This was not said by anyone on this forum ..

Maybe that is partly why the parental units were so mean, cruel, and abandoning..

To force me to “grow a thick skin”

Well guess what it didn’t work

As hard as I try to move forward etc... I’m sensitive and for those who get me at all this isn’t a “negative” thing, it generally makes me more empathic of others,

And also causes me a boat load of pain

And that GP’s “supportive” ? Comment “confidence comes from doing things” UGH

I didn’t want to talk about pain.. I didn’t want to talk about depression.

I didn’t want to be misunderstood. But he was very competent at misunderstanding everything I said and putting a negative and blaming spin on everything I said.

As have been almost all the doctors I’ve consulted

Is it possible to trust a person or group of people who keep hurting me, who “should” know better?

Of course it isn’t

I’ve learnt the lesson that I’m a POS I’m not “worth their time” - Parental Units, doctors, others irl

(This post is not about anyone on this forum)

Maybe I ........ censored.

[Fuzzybear]

Grrrrrrrr fuzzy paws

[Rohag]

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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

he was very competent at misunderstanding

I like this.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

unrelenting anxiety...Keeping it all in my head is not at all helpful.

Addressing the memories themselves has not worked for you.
Is there anything in your immediate physical environment that tends to evoke the memories? (No need to answer.)

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

“To grow a thick skin”

To paraphrase an old saying, if you multiply your defences such that nothing can reach you, you can't reach out.
But you are correct. The parental units said one thing ("grow a thick skin"), but did another -- make sure your "skin" was thin enough for them to "feed" on you. But I'm just stating the obvious...

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((( Rohag ))))))))

I don’t think it’s “obvious” what you said (hugs)

There isn’t enough information in general out there about.. censored ..

Thanks for replying

Originally Posted by Rohag

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I like this.

Addressing the memories themselves has not worked for you.
Is there anything in your immediate physical environment that tends to evoke the memories? (No need to answer.)

To paraphrase an old saying, if you multiply your defences such that nothing can reach you, you can't reach out.
But you are correct. The parental units said one thing ("grow a thick skin"), but did another -- make sure your "skin" was thin enough for them to "feed" on you. But I'm just stating the obvious...

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))

[Fuzzybear]

I definitely don’t agree with the “wisdom” of some doctors in this forest that “talking doesn’t help” - especially when medication isn’t an option

If “talking doesn’t help” - and I don’t agree with that anyway, it’s a cop out, ********.

They do not understand us.

[little turtle]

wow...very important..i like to talk about me for real and not be judged...

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by little turtle

wow...very important..i like to talk about me for real and not be judged...

I completely agree with this little turtle

Also when I’m judged it hurts. I can’t change or move on from being fuzzy paws...

As we mentioned before..

You can’t move on from being little turtle

I can’t move on from being fuzzy paws.

I’m not actually sure that addressing the memories isn’t or couldn’t be helpful.

It’s one of the roads that isn’t completely blocked

Many of the obvious roads are blocked. Grrrrrrrr

[little turtle]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I completely agree with this little turtle

Also when I’m judged it hurts. I can’t change or move on from being fuzzy paws...

As we mentioned before..

You can’t move on from being little turtle

I can’t move on from being fuzzy paws.

I’m not actually sure that addressing the memories isn’t or couldn’t be helpful.

It’s one of the roads that isn’t completely blocked

Many of the obvious roads are blocked. Grrrrrrrr

wow fuzzy...love is patient...love is kind...
on the bus

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by little turtle

wow fuzzy...love is patient...love is kind...
on the bus

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Thanks for being little turtle

Just leaving hugs for wonderful Fuzzy

We loves our Fuzzy

[Thirty shades]

Big bear hugs for you Fuzzy. Sad and scared sounds miserable. No lecture here Fuzzy. Just some inner wisdom from someone in your shoes.

Meditation and mindfulness have a place but are not helpful I find, when you sink past a point. I am with you there.

To me it feels like Dr's are unable to give emapathy. I guess they are frustrated when they cannot fix their patient. They seem to freak out and take it out on us and blame us for our own feelings. We can't trust Dr's because they abuse our trust. So they say confidence comes from doing things. It does if you have a positive experience but not from negative and unloving ones. Dr's would not be Dr's with our parents.

He was very competent at misunderstanding everything I said and putting a negative and blaming spin on everything I said.
I love this statement. It is so true. You are not alone here at all.

A therapist gave me advice that I need to give myself the love, I am deprived of. I have to love me and it helps a bit. I hug me and talk kindly to myself until my inner critic turns up to ruin things. Note to self - add Inner critic to the list Fuzzy made of parental units, Dr's and others.

A thick skin - recently I have come to wonder if my thick skin, is part of the problem. Maybe I need to let the hurt and pain in and deal with it because it is real. Rejecting pain appears to bring on more pain. I will try to feel it but I always forget what to do when I need to act. My poor fuzzy brain.

You are worthwhile Fuzzy. No-one can command you better and they all have not worked that out. What you really need is love.

[Candy1955]

I wish for you good things, smiles, calm dreams, peace...

[ShadowGX]

Oh Fuzzy, it will work, some day... Just keep hanging in there and trying your best. Ignore (or bite) those unhelpful people.