Hello..?

Hi everyone,
This forum is pretty quiet at the moment. The thought I’m having here is sort of a continuation of “as is” ..

I was going to put something here, not sure what, to improve my communication.. so maybe imagine a teddy bear.. or a safe place.

And now I’m reminded of a therapist (irl) who just said ...... uh .. I’m not going to share that

Several times, or more than several times, mostly irl, I’ve taken a risk and opened up somewhat. And the response I received was .. well.. not super validating of me.

I don’t really understand where people are coming from with this sort of response, other than a place of being self absorbed and maybe even wanting to lash out or put someone down to make themselves feel better.

I’m very familiar with this as it was what I “received” mostly when I was growing up.

Thanks to all the supportive people here who realise that accepting others as is helps to make the world just a bit better and kinder. And it also helps us. At least it helps me when I’m kind to a friend, or even to someone I don’t know.

It isn’t my intention to make this post a “lecture” ... also I don’t think anyone is
“inadequate” for not having “got over” trauma. Or depression .. or .. A post I read somewhere made me think of this, (someone was blaming themselves ) also I don’t find comparing pain helpful, in the slightest.

Hugs to all

PS hugs are welcome

fuzzy------------
irl I feel that when I share something important about my life I get put down..
I have a problem with this...I spoke up today with my wife...I told her that
she is not supportive and I am going away from our relationship...I am not talking divorce...I like the AS IS BUS...

Thanks for sharing ((((((( little turtle )))))))

That's easy. In fact, I don't have to imagine; I've several friends of the teddy-bear persuasion perched around the house.

I find that the people who do suffer/cope with depression are truly the only ones who "get us" and know how to listen to us. There are a lot of people with depression who are hiding out there and I've been surprised to find them when I do take a risk and say something to them. Yes, there will be those who don't and perhaps can't respond to us in helpful ways, but I find it best to accept that's who they are. And, I also hold hope that they might decide (on their own timetable) to learn a little about depression and become more understanding and accepting of it.