[Gymgirl71]

It was only for 5 months but it still impacted me badly..he was really emotionally/verbally abusive and a lot of it was the last month and bad..I am starting to lose interest in things and I feel really tired..I see my therapist Sunday but I really don’t want to be on meds if I can help it..just need ways to cope and forget about him..

[sarahsweets]

Gymgirl: I have concerns about your well being as as it pertains to this past relationship and your connection to it. You described how abusive he was and an alcoholic among many things. You seem to acknowledge the gaslighting, the manipulation and emotional abuse. You seem to realize how bad he was for you. Yet you still had some contact with him(or still do?) he occupies your thoughts and you are letting him control your moods. It was a short relationship and I am not saying it wasnt meaningful to you but in the grand scheme of things it wasn't something that had years of emeshment to unravel. What do you think you need to do to not think about, talk about or wish to contact this man? You seem like a smart girl so you know its not good for you.

[Gymgirl71]

Originally Posted by sarahsweets

Gymgirl: I have concerns about your well being as as it pertains to this past relationship and your connection to it. You described how abusive he was and an alcoholic among many things. You seem to acknowledge the gaslighting, the manipulation and emotional abuse. You seem to realize how bad he was for you. Yet you still had some contact with him(or still do?) he occupies your thoughts and you are letting him control your moods. It was a short relationship and I am not saying it wasnt meaningful to you but in the grand scheme of things it wasn't something that had years of emeshment to unravel. What do you think you need to do to not think about, talk about or wish to contact this man? You seem like a smart girl so you know its not good for you.

Contacting him would only make things worse so no..he just got inside my head because he said some really damaging things toward the end that did something..things I shouldn’t let get to me as they aren’t true

[Fuzzybear]

Hang in there. These things take time to get over. Give yourself the time you need to grieve and heal. You will get stronger after you work through this for a while. You really will. Some things that I find helpful are journaling, reading, coming here to PC and taking long walks. I hope you feel better soon... but don’t rush yourself through this.

[Mopey]

((((((GYMGIRL)))))) It's so hard, sweetheart.... I think these close relationships can tear you up like nothing else, no matter what inappropriate things have gone on.... All I can advise is to take it about 1-2 minutes at a time, distract yourself if you can, if you have friends, or here on the forum, just pour it out. Let people hold you and respond...