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Old Jun 24, 2019, 03:55 PM
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This post is made with thought and care. I care about this community and the people here. Somewhere else I briefly visited long ago had what was called “rules of engagement” - things to think about before posting, especially if we are feeling particularly distressed, for whatever reason.

Thank you to Rohag and little turtle, Bill3, Thirty Shades and many others who have modelled respect and kindness to all for a long time. I think long term members deserve special kudos and appreciation. I offer you all my deep respect and caring thoughts.

These are reminders for me as well
They are just my opinion... feel free to disagree (if you must..)

1. When replying to a post, especially if someone is depressed/anxious/in emotional pain..
If you don’t have something supportive to say (or hugs) then don’t bother replying.

If you’re feeling particularly distressed or angry I suggest taking time before replying and not making what some therapists might less than kindly describe as a “knee jerk post” - especially if you’re the first responder.

I have occasionally been “trolled” by random fly by posters who obviously put no thought into their post.. unless they were just wanting to take their anger out on someone. Not cool.... and it can be hurtful. Receiving a negative and thoughtless
post, especially as the first reply. I regret if I have ever done this (I hope not). I don’t make a log of all my posts or others posts though since I have plenty to do outside of this forum.....
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Most people are doing the best they can. And that is good enough.

I think almost everyone here has an inner voice which insists .... negative things.... so nobody wants to lash out at others and possibly hurt them. Being sensitive is not a flaw, if used for good it can be a strength... imho.

Respect and peace to all
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Old Jun 24, 2019, 04:30 PM
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Thank you for being here Fuzzy and posting threads that are supportive, kind and caring to all
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Old Jun 24, 2019, 04:43 PM
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Thank you for being here Fuzzy and posting threads that are supportive, kind and caring to all
Thank you for being here also Thirty shades and for all your supportive, caring and kind posts. Much respect to you
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Old Jun 24, 2019, 07:00 PM
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Fuzzybear, without your kindness I wouldn't even be here on this forum anymore so you know how I think about you. I don't think I need to say it again.
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Old Jun 25, 2019, 12:51 AM
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I try hard not to snap at others. I know I have never insulted anyone on here (at least I hope not). There are times when I see a thread and I want to respond negatively but instead I say nothing at all.
My position on crying is well known on here and it is nice to have not gotten backlash over it. No one agrees with me, which is fine. Galileo once said the world was round and everyone ridiculed him. It's nice to not face that type of harsh judgment here. (Sorry I forgot where I was going with that so I'll shut up now)
Thanks for all you do Fuzzy
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Old Jun 25, 2019, 08:15 PM
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Thank you Fuzzy.

First, do no harm.
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Old Jun 25, 2019, 10:26 PM
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Fuzzy, wow. This is an incredible post and I wholeheartedly agree with your "rules of engagement." Very very good reminder for me too. Thank you!
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