[jesyka]

I have many times. I've had depression for most of my life. IT started in h.s and I'm in my late 49's now. I've been on lots of different meds over the years, but nothing really works that well. Now I'm on Cybalta. It helps a little. I have anxiety too.

I have also tried seeing psychologists, but none of them have helped me & none of them seemed to take me that seriously.. I get no real support from anyone now. One friend I recently cut out of my life for being rude and disrespectful to me for years told me that I'm "whiny", "negative", and that lots of people have a worse life than I do and that I'm "lucky".

She told me that I'm to "sensitive', that I 'overreact" to things, that she's sick of hearing about my issues and that I need to be more positive. She told me to rate issues on a 1-10 scale and that anything less than a 7 is stupid.

I have no one to talk to now and although I do have a few friends, none of them have problems like mine, or as severe as mine. I rarely bring up my issues with them as I'm afraid that they'll end up ditching me like other people have if I start making them feel like my "therapist>

I have had a few people complain and exaggerate things that I did. One time one jerk former male friend made a big issue out of paying for my drinks and how I was being picky for not drinking it like it was listed on the menu, ugh! I listened to their issues, so I thought it was OK to talk about mine too. I have also been called "needy", "suffocating", "that I worry to much", that I need to relax, go with the flow, and chill out.

I'm better than I used to be. Now this place is the only place that I can find any support. My husband doesn't care about my issues. Him and my family think that it's all in my head and that I can become happy if I want to be happy.

They don't understand that things don't work that way. I often feel judged harshly and that sometimes people avoid me because I can't be happy all the time or fake being happy and social like most people can.

I'm not good at being fake or hiding my feelings. I have lost friends because most people don't like being around "negative" people who "stress" them out. Even one former best friend told me that I "stressed" her out with my issues and that her health issues were much more important than my own serious issues with dealing with a husband who kept on threatening to divorce me, financial issues, etc....

She was really nasty and two faced and told a mutual friend of mine that I'm a lazy person who doesn't want to work and that all I do is sit around and eat and drink all day which isn't true. This was when I wasn't working. She also said that I'm a "drug addict" just because I take prescription meds. and other nasty lies.

This makes my depression and anxiety worse. I did nothing to her but hurt her ego by telling her things I didn't like about her. She didn't take things well. One of them was to please stop trying to sell me stuff. She also said that I "stressed' her out with my problems.

A mutual friend who also had a fall out with her told me about her. And that she was jealous of me too. I feel that no one cares. That'd be nice if I had at least one or two people in real life that I could talk to, or even a few people on here who won't judge me.

Has anyone else on here have similar issues with people like that?

[sarahsweets]

I have not had issues like you mention. And it doesn't really matter whether or not those things about you are true. It is still another person's opinion. What kind of psychologist have you seen? Have you seen therapists or just psychologist? Please try hard not to let what other people think of you Affect you. Some people are assholes

I get judged a lot. judged for depression, judged because I'm agoraphobic, judged because I've not had many life experiences, judged because I breav.. seriously, sometimes it seems a neverending cycle.

this is my only place to get support, too

I had a friend (really good friend), but she

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sadly passed away at a young age, and I miss her every day.

she was like a sister to me and now I don't have anyone.

this forum is a lifesaver, I think

keep reaching out here

I've also felt judged for liking children's tv shows

so many people think it weird at my age I watch them (especially without a child)

[Fuzzybear]

I have also been judged for buying one white teddy bear..

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by jesyka

I have many times. I've had depression for most of my life. IT started in h.s and I'm in my late 49's now. I've been on lots of different meds over the years, but nothing really works that well. Now I'm on Cybalta. It helps a little. I have anxiety too.

I have also tried seeing psychologists, but none of them have helped me & none of them seemed to take me that seriously.. I get no real support from anyone now. One friend I recently cut out of my life for being rude and disrespectful to me for years told me that I'm "whiny", "negative", and that lots of people have a worse life than I do and that I'm "lucky".

She told me that I'm to "sensitive', that I 'overreact" to things, that she's sick of hearing about my issues and that I need to be more positive. She told me to rate issues on a 1-10 scale and that anything less than a 7 is stupid.

I have no one to talk to now and although I do have a few friends, none of them have problems like mine, or as severe as mine. I rarely bring up my issues with them as I'm afraid that they'll end up ditching me like other people have if I start making them feel like my "therapist>

I have had a few people complain and exaggerate things that I did. One time one jerk former male friend made a big issue out of paying for my drinks and how I was being picky for not drinking it like it was listed on the menu, ugh! I listened to their issues, so I thought it was OK to talk about mine too. I have also been called "needy", "suffocating", "that I worry to much", that I need to relax, go with the flow, and chill out.

I'm better than I used to be. Now this place is the only place that I can find any support. My husband doesn't care about my issues. Him and my family think that it's all in my head and that I can become happy if I want to be happy.

They don't understand that things don't work that way. I often feel judged harshly and that sometimes people avoid me because I can't be happy all the time or fake being happy and social like most people can.

I'm not good at being fake or hiding my feelings. I have lost friends because most people don't like being around "negative" people who "stress" them out. Even one former best friend told me that I "stressed" her out with my issues and that her health issues were much more important than my own serious issues with dealing with a husband who kept on threatening to divorce me, financial issues, etc....

She was really nasty and two faced and told a mutual friend of mine that I'm a lazy person who doesn't want to work and that all I do is sit around and eat and drink all day which isn't true. This was when I wasn't working. She also said that I'm a "drug addict" just because I take prescription meds. and other nasty lies.

This makes my depression and anxiety worse. I did nothing to her but hurt her ego by telling her things I didn't like about her. She didn't take things well. One of them was to please stop trying to sell me stuff. She also said that I "stressed' her out with my problems.

A mutual friend who also had a fall out with her told me about her. And that she was jealous of me too. I feel that no one cares. That'd be nice if I had at least one or two people in real life that I could talk to, or even a few people on here who won't judge me.

Has anyone else on here have similar issues with people like that?

I have this problem myself with other people. You are not alone in this. It sound like your friends are all toxic people who need to work on their self and the other friend who is talking about you is doing this to other who because she is jealous of own self. People who feel good about themselves don't put people down and don't have bad things to say about other people.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Buffy01

I have this problem myself with other people. You are not alone in this. It sound like your friends are all toxic people who need to work on their self and the other friend who is talking about you is doing this to other who because she is jealous of own self. People who feel good about themselves don't put people down and don't have bad things to say about other people.

I think this is usually, if not always true.

People who feel good about themselves do not put other people down and do not have bad things to say about other people, especially repeatedly over time

This person you mention needs to work more on themselves and a lot less on judging others. And a LOT less on repeatedly verbalising those unfair judgments and / or unkindly acting them out.

Hugs and respect to all

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I have also been judged for buying one white teddy bear..

wow, and you would think wouldn't you that their could be 100 reasons why you are buying a teddybear.

as far as they knew it could have been a gift for someone

[bpcyclist]

My mother's favorite thing to say to me when I was a kid was: "Oh, honey, you are just too sensitive."

Heard it 10 bakillion times.

[Fuzzybear]

Grrrrrrrrrrr.......

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome, Jesyka.
Yes, various people have judged me. Few, though, have been as openly nasty as those you describe in your post. I'm sorry.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I have also been judged for buying one white teddy bear..

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by sarahsweets

I have not had issues like you mention. And it doesn't really matter whether or not those things about you are true. It is still another person's opinion. What kind of psychologist have you seen? Have you seen therapists or just psychologist? Please try hard not to let what other people think of you Affect you. Some people are assholes

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You're lucky. I've seen everyone from a psychiatrist to a hypnotherapist. None of them helped me. None of them seemed to take me seriously, or they just couldn't help me even though they tried to.

It's hard to not take things personally when people keep on judging me and rejecting me most of the time.. Some people are assholes.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

I get judged a lot. judged for depression, judged because I'm agoraphobic, judged because I've not had many life experiences, judged because I breav.. seriously, sometimes it seems a neverending cycle.

this is my only place to get support, too

I had a friend (really good friend), but she

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this forum is a lifesaver, I think

keep reaching out here

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I'm so sorry to hear that you're being mistreated by other people sometimes too- I'm also sorry to hear about your friend-

You can PM me if you'd like to talk and maybe we can support each other.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

I've also felt judged for liking children's tv shows

so many people think it weird at my age I watch them (especially without a child)

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You're not weird. So what if you like stuff that other people your age don't like, or admit to liking. To hell with those people!

What shows do you like? I like the Simpsons, Family Guy, and old animated shows and cartoons like Beavis and Butthead, Daria, and I used to watch a lot of cartoons every Sunday morning when I was in Jr. High and H.S.

My dad always thought it was for kids. He didn't even like it when my sister and I played video games. He gave them away after a year. Ugh!

I don't have any kids either. I like stuff that a lot of people my age don't seem to like such as rock music. Some do, but not many.

How old are you? I'm 47, but although I feel older than that, I sometimes think and feel like a younger person mentally, lol.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I have also been judged for buying one white teddy bear..

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I'm sorry to hear that. So what if you buy a teddy bear? They're cute! What are you supposed to do, start knitting and playing bingo at the old folks home or whatever it is people your age normally do? lol.

Do what makes you happy as long as it's not hurting yourself or anyone else.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by Buffy01

I have this problem myself with other people. You are not alone in this. It sound like your friends are all toxic people who need to work on their self and the other friend who is talking about you is doing this to other who because she is jealous of own self. People who feel good about themselves don't put people down and don't have bad things to say about other people.

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I'm sorry to hear that you have the same problems too- You're probably right about what you said. One thing they ALL had in common was that they were all struggling, all poor and broke most of the time, all not happy with their living situation and/or not happy with being single too.

They ALL told me how lucky I am to have a husband who takes care of me, how I don't have to really work hard like they do most of the time (I have worked at back breaking jobs in the past). or that the few contracting jobs that I got paid well. I could never win with them, ugh.

That nasty two face friend lives with her mom and she is still living with her sick demented mother. She's single and can never find a guy who'll stay with her for long. Another friend who complained about me a lot also lives with her mom.

The two faced former friend also has a lot of health issues as well. She can't work at a regular job as she also suffers from panic attacks and she has agoraphobia as well. I didn't judge her for that though.

None of my other friends who are more fortunate as far as having their own place and secure in their finances, in a happy relationship, or even none are that critical of me ever.

[jesyka]

FuzzyBear, you are right about what you said! Cute dancing bear btw!

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by bpcyclist

My mother's favorite thing to say to me when I was a kid was: "Oh, honey, you are just too sensitive."

Heard it 10 bakillion times.

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Sorry to hear that. Mine too! My dad, my sister, my husband, and more people than I can remember have told me that including a few friends! Ugh! Maybe other people are just to insensitive at times.

[downandlonely]

I haven't had as many people judge me as you have, but it's out of fear of being judged that I don't tell most people I know about my depression. I tell people here and in real life support groups (which are now virtual). It's only with others who have the same issues that I feel understood.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by Rohag

Hello & Welcome, Jesyka.
Yes, various people have judged me. Few, though, have been as openly nasty as those you describe in your post. I'm sorry.

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I'm sorry to hear that you've been judged too. I need to be a lot more careful with who I open up to from now on.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by downandlonely

I haven't had as many people judge me as you have, but it's out of fear of being judged that I don't tell most people I know about my depression. I tell people here and in real life support groups (which are now virtual). It's only with others who have the same issues that I feel understood.

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You're smart. I thought that I could trust my friends and loved ones with my issues with depression and anxiety, but I was wrong about that most of the time.

A lot of people just seem to think that it's all in my head and that I'm just looking for attention, that I'm to whiny, to sensitive that I worry to much, etc...

Ugh! I told all of my friends about what I'm like since I can't hide who I am. I suck at faking emotions. Only two people I know have similar issues. They're both very nice women, but their issues are mild compared to mine.

At least it seems like it. They always seem happy to me. I can't fake being happy. I need to be more careful with how much information I reveal to other people from now on.

I need to find a real life support group too that's free and not temporary. We don't have insurance for now. I hope that they support group that you're in is helping you.

[Fuzzybear]

There’s a song by Bob Marley, I think it’s called “judge not”..

It might give you a smile