anyone else see themselves as " boring?"

does anyone else see themselves as boring

I think one of the reasons (one out of many reasons), why I don't have any friends, is because I don't really have much to offer to the friendship

I mean: no one wants to know I am eating potato chips, no one wants to know I'm bouncing on the bed, no one wants to know about what's in my drink cup, I generally feel I'm boring

people these days want to know about work. interesting/ fun experiences. have a laugh. they don't want to know about how many chicken nuggets are in my nuggets box..

Hi-

I. Myself as boring....I love to bi he watch tv...love to read....I walk my dog...have one friend...am depressed...

My ex thought I was “boring” because I did not want to do the things he wanted...which were boring to me....I informed him that I find him BORING.

HUGS

little palm

what kind of dog do you have

as a child I had a yorkie

sooo cute!.

I don't own a pet now though (I am not in a state to look after one), but if I was, would defenetly get another

I think that I could very well be boring. It seems like I don't have as long conversations with people as others do. Life, lately, has been pretty boring for me. I had recently posted a thread called "So Much Sameness" in the Coping With Emotions forum; so that should explain it, I guess.

However, I feel like I'm not very well liked. I don't know why. So many seem to give me the silent treatment. I don't know what I could have done to set them off. This is especially true with my neighbors. It seems like the people like me much better at my job than at where I live.

For myself, I feel like it depends on the people I'm interacting with. If we have nothing in common then I'm sure I seem boring. But if we can strike up a conversation about interests, then I feel like I'm social. Sometimes I feel boring when the other person talks about going to all kinds of places. It's difficult to have a conversation because I mainly stay at home. So I guess it just depends.

thank you for posting this.

I have this issue too. not so much, " the silent treatment", but when I'm around their is a lot of whispering about me, and also their is a lot of uneasyness

a lot of times too, when I have tried to join in a conversation (like asking about an event or something), I am simply shut down by being told oh, well, it's nothing really- well it is, because you were just talking about it.

I don't know.. maybe I really am hated by people

I have a chow chow...she is very sweet. I love her.

I’ve been told by plenty of people that I’m boring, both when I was trying to be social and minding my own business where they just happened to be hanging out.
Sometimes it has bothered me, the feeling I have little to offer in a friendship I mean, but generally I think it’s actually kind of rude to tell others they’re boring, when there’s no opinion being sought (or offered lol). It’s a lot easier to feel social/not boring if you can find someone with a lot of similar interests - even better if they have others and you get curious enough to ask about them!
I’ve definitely been through the whispering/being shut out of conversations thing, it’s so nasty and even kind of childish to do.

Yes, all the time. But I don't care anymore. I probably am and I try not to let it bother me. I'm not always successful. I find it difficult to get out of my rut and try to talk to people because it's so exhausting. So I go back to netflix and taking care of my dog.

I feel more secure in group setting, since I'm not on the spot and can let other people talk. Also, when I'm feeling insecure, I tend to just ask the other person a lot of follow up questions. Most of the time they're glad to talk about themselves.

I think it's really easy for us to do some "mind reading" and assume what people think about us just because we don't feel good about ourselves. It's likely that people don't actually find you boring. That being said, sometimes what we believe about ourselves becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. In past relationships or friendships I've often hid parts of myself or not spoken up because I found myself to be boring or uninteresting. Ultimately that had a negative impact because the other person wanted to get to know me but because I felt so little of myself I didn't take the risk to open up.

If you still feel uninteresting, take time to take an inventory of what things you are interested in. What are some of the experiences you've had in your life? What are some things you want for the future? What are some questions that you'd like to ask others, and can you answer those questions yourself?

Conversations and friendships take practice. The more we become comfortable sharing ourselves the easier it is for them to last, and the easier it is for us to see that we are worthwhile, that we matter, and that we have something to offer. I hope you find ways to feel more confident about who you are.

Well I think I'm boring too. I use humour all the time to make others laugh but seems like they weren't really funny.

I'm sure some people would appreciate your jokes I sometimes don't appreciate jokes that to me are... well not funny. But a few do not like my Grrrrr jokes (lol) ;p