[altonwoodsdrphil]

I'm feeling a little sad today, I have been involved with a couple of people (one a friend and one my step-son) doing some small scale logging. Well, things just did'nt work out as far as me being able to haul the logs fast enough to keep up with them (because I also work in the yard) and besides that my truck is not really built for that so he found someon else to do the hauling.Today my stepson offered me 50.00 a day to work at the landing with my 8000.00 forklift sorting logs and just generally keeping things organized.(just out of the "goodness" of his heart) I also have an option to haul some loads and make maybe an extra 100.00 a week. Basicly, working a whole lot more hours for less money.I guess what I resent the most is being drawn into this venture by them with them knowing what equipment I had only to be told "you just don't have the right equipment...but DO hang around and work for us with your forklift for 50.00 a day okay?" Have you ever had a friend who no matter what always comes out smellin lke a rose and you smellin worse? I told my wife today that I must have some sort of dis-order to let people constantly get the better of me in just about any deal that happens between us. She said "no, you're just too nice of a guy" (thats why she's my wife) I declined the offer, and now will work for myself with myself and probably make more money . there...I feel better! thanks for listening.

[sabby]

Hey Phil....what you just explained doesn't sound all that unusual. I think we let these kinds of things happen a lot of the time for just the reason your wife stated "you're just too nice of a guy". Sounds to me like you enjoy helping and being productive. Sometimes we find out that after helping as best we can, that it's not really where we want to be as there is little in it for us. And I'm not saying that to sound selfish or uncaring. I mean it as with anything in life, there has to be some kind of payback to what we do. The payback may be monetary, emotional, intellectual, whatever is important to us.

And then there is another way to look at it too....nothing ventured nothing gained...and you don't know if you don't try So, you gave it a try, it didn't work out for you and you moved on. Not a dang thing wrong with that now is there??

Best of luck to you in your self employment!


sabby

[Perna]

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Well, things just did'nt work out

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That's as far as I'd let myself dwell. It's not your fault. You tried and it didn't work. If you want fault, they may not know as much as they should if they thought your equipment could keep up? I don't think they would have invited you in the first place though if they didn't want you working with them; they may be disappointed too that it hasn't worked out and not been thinking "sympathy" job as much as enjoying having you around and wishing you could stay and scrambling to try and think of a way to keep you.

[nowheretorun]

sorry all that went kinda wrong there alton... happens sometimes... keep the faith, look up... you've got what you need to survive... and survive happily and healthfully...

I agree with everyone on this one
there should be a disorder "I am the same way"
called "NPD"
nice person disorder
good luck hope things get better
remember better to be nice than not

[nowheretorun]

muffy said...

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remember better to be nice than not

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worth remembering ((( muffy )))

[Cyran0]

Alton, you're a great guy. Kudos to you for seeing the situation for what it was and moving on.

Cyran0

[(JD)]

YEah, been there done that (not with logging though! )

I'm hoping things work out well for you on your own. Be sure to use your wife's strength when it comes to negotiations though, as those who are hiring you might also try to take advantage. Get contracts in writing. GOOD wishes!