Possible trigger:

yesterday, I saw the death of queen elizabeth 2.

what struck me, (as well as the fact she went downhill pretty quickly from when they made the announcement earlier), was that all the royal family came to see her and stay by her bedside

having no family, I wonder who will be at my bedside when it's my time?. Idon't want to be one of these people who dies surrounded by strangers- or even worse, die alone.

I just... wonder that's all

queen elizabeth had loads of people

who will I have

[TheGal]

I think the same thing about myself, so you're not alone in having those thoughts....

Goodness! - I feel exactly the same way. It's scary at times. I wouldn't be much into all kinds of people making a big deal about me when I pass on. I feel alone a lot now and I'm in reasonable good health. But what will happen when it declines?

As time goes on, the Baby Boomers and younger generations will be old and there will be at least some who will be alone. Sometimes I feel that society here in US is not ready for that onslaught. There should be some kind of solution for that soon.

[unaluna]

I think about that too.

Im not used to having someone around me. My parents practically ostracized me in the home.

Having someone around would make me put my attention on them. I dont want that, some random person intruding on my precious last moments?

Hopefully i will be in a hospice situation and allowed to pass peacefully.

[TheGal]

@raging vortex @will19

There are now death doulas around to assist people with dying and to be there at the end... it's sort of like a midwife or birth doula, but for death.

There is also a non-profit group called the death cafe found at https://deathcafe.com/

Also, check out the documentary series called When You Die, which also has web page and Facebook page of the same name: whenyoudie.org

[MaverickLovesYou]

I've been thinking of dying alone too

[TheGal]

Originally Posted by MaverickLovesYou

I've been thinking of dying alone too

(((((((((((((((( MaverickLovesYou )))))))))))))))))

I'll very likely die with my fur babies there, but what will happen to them after I'm gone is what I worry about

If I was to die tomorrow, Tigger would be okay (RSPCA would take her back), Willow is the one who would struggle to find a new home though, she's got too much against her

[Rose60]

I have had such thoughts earlier, but not now. I have come to the conclusion, that life presents us for certain new "doors".

First we are children, teenagers and early grown ups. Along that way there can have been many "doors", different for each one of us, but since we are still alive we have stepped through them wherever they were on the road.

In grown up life some of us took an education, others used their life otherwise. Some married, got divorced or became widowed. Others lived alone all the time, but went through other "doors".

As we grow older, we will be weaker. Some will be sent to a retirement-home, others will be able to live at home (alone). At the retirement home we will not die alone.

It helps me to see death as another door to go through. Since I have been able to go through all the other "doors", why should I not be able to let myself pass through the last "door"?

Of course we will have different views on what happens afterward, some think of heaven while others think it is nothing. Whatever we think about the afterlife or no afterlife, we all have to go through the last "door".

Hope that all understand that I do not want to push my "doors" upon you. If the "door-thought" doesn't attract you, feel free to reject it.

If you on the other hand liked the "door-analogy", feel free to adopt it so that it can be a source of relief to you in this difficult question.

None of us knows when we will die. It can be in an accident at not too old age, while others of us will have to live for a long time.

It's a sad fact that everyone does eventually, humans plants animals anything alive will eventually die

Originally Posted by TheGal

@raging vortex @will19

There are now death doulas around to assist people with dying and to be there at the end... it's sort of like a midwife or birth doula, but for death.

There is also a non-profit group called the death cafe found at https://deathcafe.com/

Also, check out the documentary series called When You Die, which also has web page and Facebook page of the same name: whenyoudie.org

I think my phone ate what I just tried to say

There is a site that supposedly says when it thinks someone will die, is it death cafe or another site? Can't open the links, smart phone is stupid

I know there is one, I remember someone sending me the link elsewhere, freaked me out

[TheGal]

It must be another site, @willowtigger. I heard about 'death cafe' through a woman-friend in Vancouver who lost her husband and is alone now in her seventies. Sorry that the memory of the other site came to mind. It would freak me out too...

Originally Posted by TheGal

It must be another site, @willowtigger. I heard about 'death cafe' through a woman-friend in Vancouver who lost her husband and is alone now in her seventies. Sorry that the memory of the other site came to mind. It would freak me out too...

All i remember is the site someone said about on a different forum years ago was death something or other and supposedly it told people when they would likely die

freaked me out completely

I dont want to know when I will die

[TheGal]

The site you're talking about, willow, doesn't really know when people will die; it's whoever created it wanting to scare people. That's all.

PS I don't want to know either...

[unaluna]

Kinda about this.

nytimes.com

I admit I get scared about Tigger dying

Is it weird that I'm not afraid of my own death, I'm afraid of Tigger's death?

[MaverickLovesYou]

Originally Posted by unaluna

Kinda about this.

nytimes.com

Ty for posting. I appreciated that sad story. That article "The Mysterious Patient in Room 23: The Hermit Baroness" is a true story right? Birgit Thyssen-Bornemisza was a real person?

[TheGal]

[QUOTE=unaluna;7266235]Kinda about this.

[url=https://www.nytimes.com/2022/10/20/nyregion/baroness-birgit-thyssen-bornemisza.html[/QUOTE]

Interesting article

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by MaverickLovesYou

Ty for posting. I appreciated that sad story. That article "The Mysterious Patient in Room 23: The Hermit Baroness" is a true story right? Birgit Thyssen-Bornemisza was a real person?

I believe so, yes.