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Old May 23, 2008, 10:07 PM
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Old May 23, 2008, 10:10 PM
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I guess it can feel that way if you are waiting for someone to say something comforting and it doesn't come. But silence doesn't actually do anything... it's how you allow it to affect you that is important.

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Old May 23, 2008, 10:28 PM
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Old May 24, 2008, 12:59 AM
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I get nervous when I perceive silence.
I can even feel ignored. Rejected.
I found it's my own fears working overtime - from childhood and such.

Nobody likes to feel rejected or ignored. Nobody. Doesn't matter if it is really happening when you feel it. The good thing is to realize it's usually not what is going on - it's our issues popping up.

Anyway, I don't know who could ignore a sweet Fuzzy who always has her heart with her?

Maybe you are feeling taken for granted a little?
For that I would be guilty.
Always thinking you are fine.
I'm so sorry for that.
I never mean to overlook your intention and I don't miss your heartfelt thoughts,
but I do not recognize how important you are to me or say it nearly enough.

I'm so sorry,
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Old May 24, 2008, 01:00 AM
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silence sucks but some times its good
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Old May 24, 2008, 03:22 AM
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i don't like silence at all.
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Old May 24, 2008, 07:31 AM
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Fuzzybear, Sky, Gimmeice, Roz G, Griffe, Nightbird, Lonely tears and Balishbun: can i be absolutely honest? Speak my truth with sensitivity and dignity? I like silence for the following reasons:
1): Because I'm physically so isolated in my home I love my silence, as i can get into my inner soul and make positive vibes for myself;
2): Because I'm psychologically so isolated, I'm able to write. My writing isn't so good, but it's wonderful therapy for me.;
3): And yet, my dear friend Fuzzy bear has a significant and vital point: silence CAN hurt, oh yes! Most certainly. But I've trained myself to deep concentration, perhaps too much, that any other noise (T.V. radio, etc) can and does distract me;
4): FuzzyBear, my dear friend, Silence Silence Silence if you are referring to that awful silence when one is with another and a yawning gap in conversation occours, then you're spot-on: it can, and is, hell.
5): Yes, I love my silence, I have a tape on which is the noise of a river, a waterfall, and I sit in my garden and put on my mini-waterfall and the silence broken by the water is blissful.
6): Most of you here do have conversations with other people I assume) but i dont: I'm scared to go out, following my sexual assault, so there are very few examples in my life as far as silences in converstaion, are concerned.

Sorry for such a long-winded answer, Fuzzy bear, but that is my humble contribution to your point ... love you all.
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
john4 said:
Fuzzybear, Sky, Gimmeice, Roz G, Griffe, Nightbird, Lonely tears and Balishbun: can i be absolutely honest? Speak my truth with sensitivity and dignity? I like silence for the following reasons:
1): Because I'm physically so isolated in my home I love my silence, as i can get into my inner soul and make positive vibes for myself;
2): Because I'm psychologically so isolated, I'm able to write. My writing isn't so good, but it's wonderful therapy for me.;
3): And yet, my dear friend Fuzzy bear has a significant and vital point: silence CAN hurt, oh yes! Most certainly. But I've trained myself to deep concentration, perhaps too much, that any other noise (T.V. radio, etc) can and does distract me;
4): FuzzyBear, my dear friend, Silence Silence Silence if you are referring to that awful silence when one is with another and a yawning gap in conversation occours, then you're spot-on: it can, and is, hell.
5): Yes, I love my silence, I have a tape on which is the noise of a river, a waterfall, and I sit in my garden and put on my mini-waterfall and the silence broken by the water is blissful.
6): Most of you here do have conversations with other people I assume) but i dont: I'm scared to go out, following my sexual assault, so there are very few examples in my life as far as silences in converstaion, are concerned.

Sorry for such a long-winded answer, Fuzzy bear, but that is my humble contribution to your point ... love you all.

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I agree wholeheartedly John. I find my silence ...at this moments peace....refreshing.
Fuzzy....as others have stated....it's not the silence of the moment....it's what you "ponder and meditate on" during that moment that could be your blessing...or seem a curse.
Please be patient with yourself....listen to the innermost "you" during that silence. Still, silent water runs deep... lil one. Refresh yourself in the moment's peace. Ponder things....and let yourself heal.
Often...a light in the dark shining...shows us there is nothing to fear anymore; what our minds have tricked us into believing was there. Let that silence be your light. Immerse yourself in the comfort of "nothing" but still.
Take care dear bear....peace....
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Old May 24, 2008, 08:37 AM
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its whats "in" and "around" the silence that hurts, yes, is it silence from not having somebody or something unconnected or not fully met perhaps?

the lack of disstraction from self , can be very sore and lonely

hoping u feelong better soon....

Beethovens 5th symphony doesn't exist until somebody listens to it!!, we are listening,,, your voice is heard, we care Fuzzybear..

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