How do you love yourself

How do you love yourself when you cant even look at yourself in the mirror?
How do you love yourself when you wish you were six feet under?
How do you love yourself when your life is falling apart?
How do you love yourself when no one has ever loved you?

As a frog of little brain, I don't have the answers.
But if you find out please pass them along.

Wish I could help but each day of my own life is just another day of nothingness

I'm sorry, I have no answers

Just a (((damajdancer)))

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I try to love myself, by not looking at myself through my eyes - but through a friends - they seem to see something they love, so that's at least something to consider.

You try to love yourself because you're worthy of it. Even if today is really bad, tomorrow can get better (and I'm not just saying that because I'm far from being an eternal optimist).

You love yourself when your world is falling apart by taking some time for yourself. Even when things seem bleak, if you're practicing some TLC (or self-care) of yourself then maybe the pieces will come back together.

You love yourself, against all odds when you think nobody has ever loved you because you can hope. There's something wise that I've heard - every minute there is someone, somewhere who is thinking about you. Like right now, I'm thinking about you fondly while I write this. You can hope to be shown the love that people for you, even if they don't express it well, or sometimes at all. We're all loved ... just sometimes we don't know it.

(These are my answers anyways)

If you want to talk at all, please pm me, ok?

... i know for me, i learned to love myself by all that i survived, went through, did for myself, and others ... it sounds silly, but my past made me love myself today - because i had to learn to take care of myself on my own, and then others, almost immediately.

all the things that brought sadness to me, the people who disappointed me, or didn't love me in return, or even care ... or abused me ... i forgave for myself.

i began to self talk positive things about me, things an imaginary loving parent would have said, or a dear friend did, or grandparent, or past therapist ... the positive things about myself, even from my pro/con lists of characteristics i wrote years ago in journals...

you get the picture.

i love myself because i am (and my list goes here).

you can make one.

start with things like - ex) whatever fits you

i love myself because -
i'm friendly, supportive, loyal, loving, kind, caring, generous, cute, funny, good fashion sense, musically inclined, sport oriented, talented, skillful, compliment people and mean it, am honest, brave, responsible, community-oriented, school-oriented, help others, feel emotions, do volunteer work, challenge myself regularly, learn new things all the time, am very flexible, forgiving, cautious, protect myself and others i love when necessary, let people be themselves, am trustworthy, experience life with open arms, greet people with an open mind, am less judgmental than before, care about world peace and feeding the poor and do something about it .... a list that fits you, you know?

these are just ideas on a place to start.

if you have 5 things your list, seal them into your heart with gratitude, and more reasons will come ... to love yourself for real.

best to you.

you are worth loving, and caring about. you have honest emotions and have been surviving difficulties. you are overcoming many things as you write.

that's 5 right there. you know more.

peace and love to you,
nightbird

((((((((((((((( damajdancer )))))))))))))))

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you are loved here ......

it's taken me 40 odd years to start trying .... it's getting easier, i dont love myself but i am starting to realise some good bits ...... you are here, you have survived, you will be a compassionate and caring person yourself from being so unloved (as a child i presume)because you will never do the same to another person ....

sending you gentle hugs .... start turning negative thoughts into positive ones .... one step at a time ..... it takes a while, but sincerely, if i can start, anyone can ..... and i mean that wishing you love, luck and best wishes, you are worthwhile ..... everyone is hugs, Jinnyann xoxoxoxoxoxo

I wish i knew how to love myself because I am feeling worse and worse everyday. I try to hide and i have been doing well up until now...

Hi Dancer, sounds like you were unfortunate enough to be raised around people who had a lot of problems so, therefore, they had no idea how to nurture a child. This was their problem but naturally you walked away with their problems. You didn't deserve this and it wasn't your fault. One way out is to see it for what it was and learn how to love yourself. I was able to learn to love myself by seeing what happened and what got me to that point. A person only sees herself by the reflection that they see from others. If you were around dysfunctional people the reflection that you saw wasn't good but it wasn't accurate either. Take this problem into your own hands. It is solvable.