[SweetAngel4129]

I really want to put what happened in my second mairriage behind me but cant. My soon to be second ex husband had his way with me while sleeping because started taking new medication. Also he had me put in jail also just can't FORGET AND FORGIVE HIM JUST CAN'T.

[gimmeice]

(((((((((((( Angel )))))))))))))))))))
I am sorry that you are going through this difficult time. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot right now.

[EJ711]

Sweet Angel,

Those are two very significant and serious actions to try to put behind you. When did these happen?

I wouldn't fault yourself for not being able to do this. Depending on the action, it can take quite a fit of time and emotional support from others to reach that point, where you are ready to release the harm done to you.

EJ

[kebsfroggy]

As a frog of little brain, I'm not sure we ever can put out past behind us. But the emotions associated to that part of our life will ease (not sure that's the right word)

My first husband beat the living tar out of me. It's still a part of my past. I still remember my 2 yr old son watching from the hall. I still remember seeing stars when my head hit the floor as my x threw me across the room. Now my view of that past is more rational and less painful. It is all there so I doubt it will ever go away. It is just that now I can see it from an entirely different perspective.

You have a lot you are going through and this is a very painful time in your life. I have faith that you will be able to put your past in perspective and be able to more on.

Treat yourself kindly. We are here if you need us.

[Fuzzybear]

[elizabeth101]

I am so sorry you are going through this! I hope you have good friends and family to help you! Don't blame yourself! You are going to need therapy and a support group. God bless.

[SweetAngel4129]

My husband had his way with me Janauary 17, 2004 and then had me arrested on March 21, 2004. Also am so sorry for what happened to you kebsfroggy hope as time goes by you can completely heal. Oh I am also seeing an counselor go back on next Tuesday maybe can finally get past what has happened to me. Thank you all for your support and if any of you need me I am also here.

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[Edahn]

Give it some time. Be patient with yourself. If you get too frustrated, you'll just make it harder on yourself. Why? because your frustration will end up being the tool to hold onto your past.

Frustration is kind of like using a glue board to get rid of flies. You're going to end up getting the flies stuck, but they won't be gone, they'll just be temporarily incapacitated. If you just relax and let the flies buzz around, they'll eventually leave and you can go back to whatever it is you were doing.

(glue board)

[nightbird]

Time will be your friend Dear Person.

And you will get over the violations of trust both physical and mental by this man ... in your own time.

It's a process. Therapy is a good place to start, or joining a victims group for a short time, or and therapeutic group would even be better.

This way you can hear the event until you don't need to give it attention anymore, and learn coping abilities for any future relationships - and the cure all is if you learn to trust yourself completely, you will be alright.

peace and comfort,
nightbird