For it all to come crashing down Can't put into words how depressed I am right now. I can't. I just can't believe it

[purplebutterfly]

((((((((Griffe)))))))))))
We are here to listen when you can talk about it.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((( griffe )))))))))))))))

[Hcab_Tep]

and eventually, you will feel okay again...I promise.

[nightbird]

look around Griffe, for some little thing to do, or watch, and take yourself outside for a little while, maybe get a smoothie at a coffee shop or something.

sometimes, a change of place - or space - can distract us from our sorrow.

do not feel obliged to the sorrow, it is there to tell us we lost something, that is all.

you can, you really can, come up for air now.

we are waiting for your insights and well-being to take shape to show many others how to overcome similar difficulties someday. when you are ready.

but now, just look at getting out of the dumps for a few hours, or the day.

practice.

you know what they say about practice.

it helps me Dear Person, and I know it can help you too.

Love and Peace,
night

xoxoxoxoxoxox

[Fuzzybear]

Can't believe it. I can't do this. Sorry everyone. Too much. I can't do anything.

[mlpHolmes]

Hello Griffe,

<font color="purple">It'll be okay </font>

[nightbird]

(((Griffe)))

Yes you can do this!

Look Dear Person, we are faced with difficulties and we learn from them.

It doesn't mean we deserve them.

They happen irrespective of who we are.

So, find some hope inside yourself and let it move you - and reach out to others today!

You can do it - just like me.
I have to face the day too - and things I am not happy to do but am obliged.
I make the best of it, realize it's temporary, and live 'in the moment' when it's a bearable one - and am nice to all I come in contact with as I realize I need to appreciate every good intention and action.

You can do this!

You can do this ... say it over and over.

Read some affirmations or make some of your own and use them to pull yourself up.

Peace and comfort,
night

xoxoxox

[kebsfroggy]

Yes you can. It isn't going to be easy. You have a long and bumpy road to follow but you can make it.

It amazes me how some stupid little nothing thing can send us into a tail spin. We feel all (what the T's progress) come tumbling down around us.

The pain, the old hurts, everything is all still there.

I've been flipping this frickin wand around all over the place and it doesn't seem to be working well these days. Guess I'll have to get it in to the repair shop. Oh, darn.

Don't be so hard on yourself. We are always here to listen.

[Blue93]

(((((((((((((vince))))))))))))))) no advice just remember i'm there for you... we all are RANT ANYTIME, ok?

Kate is in hospital and this whole %!@#ing thing is my %^)#ing fault

<font color="purple">
what happened? </font>

[MotherMarcus]

Wish I was there to hold you tight. MM

[Justgiving]

((((((((((((((Griffe))))))))))))))))

We are here for you. We are listening.

kids keep crying, friends keep trying to make me talk but I can't talk to them, urges and &^!$ in my head.

I'm a lousy father, a lousy partner, a lousy friend and a lousy person. she's in hospital nothing else matters to me right now because I'm a %#@&#! idiot

[purplebutterfly]

(((((Griffe))))))))
Is Kate Okay?
You are not a lousy father, or partner, or friend....YOU are a very caring person. Please keep safe and take a deep breath and relax. You can get through this.
((((((Griffe))))
(((((Kate))))))
(((((Kids)))))

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((( griffe )))))))))))))))))

<font color="purple">Griffe, if you were any of those things then you wouldn't be hurting this much. It is because you care, it is because you love your family, and care for your friends, and because you are a wonderful person that when Kate's in the hospital that nothing else matters to you right now. </font>

thanks but I'm nothing good. I'm just an idiot. now I'm feeling so %#@&#! alone and so bloody useless because I have no one to talk to who cares, my friends just tell me I should talk to be polite and pretend that I'm worth something but everyone knows I'm not. doctors don't tell me a %#@&#! thing. they expect me to just sit here and be okay? I'm not *&!@%#@ okay. the person I love is in a hospital, of course I'm not doing well.

can't call anyone, can't message anyone, can't text anyone, I need her.

can't do anything right and I should just lock myself in my room and hide because I've gone and ruined everything. wouldn't be missed, me going away would be a great relief and break for everyone.

[nightbird]

Griffe,

Those children need you.

Kate needs you strong when she returns.

You will need to try hard and calm it down, take it down a bit, and get things in order to make it a healing place when she returns.

Start by taking care of yourself, and embracing the duties of taking care of the kids.

Then take on the house. Ask irl for a little help with this.

Keep it calm because the kids are going thru this too, not just you.

Maybe if you plan a few things for the kids, or talk to Gideon, in relationships forum (he balanced things while his wife was in hospital) ... you can actually begin to bring some peace into the home.

If you set your priorities up, write everything down if it helps (does me) and follow what you can, check off what you do, you can get out of the hole instead of going deeper.

Remember this, you want Kate to want to come home and feel better.

Give her the chance by applying yourself 100% to creating the envirment she needs - and the children need.

You can do it.

when your mind starts to lie to you, telling you to give up, just resist and keep pushing forward ... tell yourself over and over that you are not going backwards, you are going the other way - forward - to a healthier life, one step at a time.

Remember, you are going the other way! So Kate can come home and get well and the kids can be feel safe and secure.

You can do it.

Ask for help irl if you need some, even a local community center might help with kids or house. Seek out what you need.

Love and Peace,
Night