[okseeker]

I am very frustrated with the entire therapy process right now, and upset and tense. I came back from a session with a psychologist I talk to. During the past six months I’ve been so unhappy that I am paying three different people to help me. The psychologist talked about our relationship and told me that I can’t keep reaching out to other people to help me, and that one of his goals would be that I would be able to take care of myself more often. I came away feeling that warmth and depth and true connection are missing from my life; that all is emptiness. No girlfriend, and only one close friend I can talk to. And that my life is lacking anything good that touches my heart. This frightens me, because I don’t have much of a self-supporting loving adult within me. I felt like he told me I was doomed. I know I’ve been reaching out to others, because that seems to be the only thing that really works for me right now. I hunger for connection and reassurance. A family member told me: "Your're very needy right now." Well, maybe that has become true and yet I don’t want to be. Maybe my child within is still trying to fulfill the parent-child relationship of one person giving nurturing to another. I just know that I’m tense, unhappy and lacking a sense of what to do next. Even reaching out through a forum is frustrating because I can’t look a person in the eye and hear their voice. Obviously I need to strengthen the loving adult part of my personality. I am very open right now to any advice about how to better do that so that I won't feel so alone.

[bipolar_bear]

Lonliness is such a hard feeling. Learning to be satisfies and comfortable with ourselves is equally challenging. May be self acceptance and peach within will help you. something you can proactively work on in therapy.

Sometimes interests can generate new friendships with common interests. Maybe you want to conisder something like that.

DBT can also be an option. it gives you strategies to use for dealing with emotions and distress.

Just some thougths.

BB

[Capp]

okseeker,
it is frustrating and disappointing when we find ourselves in this questioning and uncomfortable place...and I'm sorry you are there.

BPB made some very good suggestions. Think about them and see which one would be easiest to try...
Jme, what would happen with me is I would reach the point where I was really tired of feeling like I was keeping the running hamster company--sometimes it felt like that furry critter was laughing at me.
What worked for me was backing off, writing down what was bothering me--I use writing as a tool--, and addressing them within myself than whoever I trusted enough to help me.
Choosing that person had its own challenge, but that was good. It made me focus and I allowed myself the freedom of no guilt--no guilt about my choice.
I wasn't doing it to for any other reason than it was doing what was best for me.

Best wishes on finding your way,
Cap

[okseeker]

Originally Posted by bipolar_bear

DBT can also be an option. it gives you strategies to use for dealing with emotions and distress.
BB

What is DBT?