[silver_moon]

Ok so I wasn't exactly thrilled that I was getting incapacity benefits because I'm so depressed. But, this is ridiculous!
I had a health assessment to 'validate' that I have severe depression and panic attacks etc. Anyway... this woman couldn't even communicate with me properly in English! I've just received a letter saying I'm not entitled to it because I didn't receive enough points along with a summary of questions..... most of which are wrong! I went to this assessment with my mother because I get panic attacks doing things on my own and I told her that and she's put it down as no???????? What! I'm just baffled and I daren't tell my mam because all hell will break loose in this house tonight. My mam will panic over financial issues, she can't afford for me to live here. My dad will go off on one, first at the woman for answering these questions wrong and then about me not being able to work and I should be working and he wants me out of this house and that I'm useless and pathetic and a lump of **** and this, that and the other.....
Can't cope with this right now!!!!!
How do people that are just trying to scrounge money when they 'can' work get away with being on benefits when they shouldn't be when for someone it's totally valid for and can't for the reasons they list is...... argh! I don't get any of this....

I'm so angry, upset and scared

[silver_moon]

Please be careful.... SH TRIGGER









This is a bad day... just getting worse and worse and worse and worse
I am so ready to do something stupid
I haven't even told my mam yet 'cause already she's yelling at me and making me feel an inch high, I'm not making things worse. I'm dreading my dad coming home.
Yesterday I cut.... for the first time in nearly two years! I was ashamed... I'm not anymore... wish I'd of done worse.
I just can not cope with all this s**t!!!!!

I don't know what to do with myself right now and if I'm not careful I'll probably give in to these urges as well... sorry this should've gone in SH? It's all for the same reason though... I'm so depressed, so messed up...

[cantstopcrying]

(((((((((((((((molly))))))))))))))) Please step back and take a deep breath. Get on the phone and call the woman and inform her of the incorrect answers. Look carefully at the letter and any enclosed information--if it's like it is here, there should be information of appealing the decision. After you are done calling, write a letter confirming you phone conversation and detail all the information that is wrong. Send it to the person who filled it out, your t (the group where you had your intake), your family doctor and the boss of the person who did the assesment. Keep a copy for yourself. Mail those immediately. Do not take this lying down. Use your anger and frustration in a positive way--make it work for you, not incapacitate you. If you need to, write two letters, one stating what an incompetant idiot she is and the other stating the facts in a mature and professional way. Throw the idiot one away and mail the other. You CAN do this. Look at all the things you never thought you could do that you have been able to do already. Channel that negative energy and those negative feelings, the anger and frustration, channel it and make it work for you!

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((( molly ))))))))))))))))))

[pegasus]

Was this for Disability Living Allowance Molly?

I'm so sorry they turned you down. I do think that you have the right to appeal though. I do know that it won't be turned down just for one question so please don't beat yourself up on it. If you decide to make an appeal make sure that you put down the professionals that have been working with you, these needed to have been written on your first form to verify your illness. The form is confusing because it tends to be geared toward physical illnesses and you need to write down everything in great detail. That can be really difficult to do if you don't like talking about it. A mental health worker can help you fill out the form.

Please share with your GP how you are feeling and how your condition is worsening.

[silver_moon]

I don't think I can write a letter because I don't understand it. It's not disability, think it's just incapacity that I was getting. My mam has handled it up to now. I don't know, the letter's so confusing, it's not clear at all. I think I may wait 'til Monday and show it to Nicki. Nicki is my employment coach, but the whole team is for people who had/still have mental health problems and there is someone there who has worked with benefits, so maybe they can help me figure this out.
I'm just so stressed and overwhelmed by everything else, I just can't get my head around this.

[cantstopcrying]

So that you don't have to wait until Monday, why not call Nikki today or tomorrow (depending on your time)? The sooner you take care of it the sooner you can put your mind at ease.

[silver_moon]

I guess I could contact her tomorrow, I just don't like bothering people

[lifelesstraveled]

((((silver moon)))
You are not bothering anyone. It's their job to help people (even if they mumble and grumble about it and are rude about it). Get the help you NEED. See what you can do to rectify this so that is less stress on most importantly you and your family. I see your posts everyday and they break my heart. I want things to turn around for you, even if its just a little at a time

LLT

[silver_moon]

Originally Posted by lifelesstraveled

((((silver moon)))
You are not bothering anyone. It's their job to help people (even if they mumble and grumble about it and are rude about it). Get the help you NEED. See what you can do to rectify this so that is less stress on most importantly you and your family. I see your posts everyday and they break my heart. I want things to turn around for you, even if its just a little at a time

LLT

She is a really nice person, Nicki, and she wouldn't be rude about it. I just feel like I'm being a nuisance.
I will talk to her about it, be it before Monday or not. I need to contact her today anyway.
(((((((((LLT))))))))))))) means a lot that you care. Thank you.

[Puffyprue]

((((((((((((((molly)))))))))))
we always here and care for u

[Tumnus]

Originally Posted by silver_moon

She is a really nice person, Nicki, and she wouldn't be rude about it. I just feel like I'm being a nuisance.

Even though I have a really strong personality I tend to avoid conflict and can victimize myself by not making those calls I need to. I was recently pretty hormonal and acted unlike myself and being very assertive at exactly the right time. I feel a bit bad about how the recieving person felt about it but it was the right thing to do and that makes me happy, overwhelming the sadness that I was kind of a "nuisance", to use your word. I hope you did call today and I hope you can continue to fight for what is right for you.