Im bundling up my problems. Ive never felt this sad..

Hello, thank you for taking time to read this. I read many articles / posts on similar problems i have been facing the past year or two (more recently 4 months)

So from what ive been told, i seem like the average kid. 16, 5 foot 10-1/2 inches, not so basic family though. Divorced parents. 1 blood brother, 12, my step dads daughter, 21, and my step mom has 3 kids, ages 22, 24, and 26 (yes, kinda weird) Id tell you about all of them, but only one of them resorts to any problem what-so-ever.

But im feeling very down at this time. Im just going to skip the junk and get to the reasons i can think of.

My mother and step-father.

They're good parents, but they argue, alot right now, and my mom seems to be a little *****y (sorry if thats too explit, all that i could think of) and i have always kinda stood up to my step dad, because hes not my real dad. My mom has been over the top lately, saying if i keep going on this path i will be like my cousin. 24, overweight, living at home still. and i took great offence to that, but didnt say anything. Talking to her is somthing i never really did as a child, and i dont really plan to for some reason.

My step sister got pregnant at 19, and we now have my 2 year old niece Ava. Shes been a trouble maker as long as i can remember. Drinking young, drugs, you name it. Totally stupid and weak to peer pressure i can imagine. Shes not doing so well now, and all the parents had a small intervention thing with her. and the arguements were horrific, and with my mom mad and stressed, she loads it onto me with the littlest things like leaving my plate on the counter and not in the sink or somthing real small.

A new friend i met in math this year. She was real nice, i learned she was a year older, but had mutual friends with me in my grade. after about a month of in-class/school friendship, we started hanging out. I dont want to brag, but im kinda good at reading people, and i knew she liked me, she even told me eventually. I did ask her out, but one morning i kinda took a joke too seriously due to my parents yelling at eachother in the background, which made me mad. She didnt really talk to me for about 2 weeks, then she kinda said i was always down and emo-like, and she could never make me happy. Then there was somthing else, but i still dont know. I figure its her best friend being jealous of me because he likes her too, but never expressed his feelings. Its real hard on me right now.

I dont really talk to anybody about this but her, and she does the same with me.

Another thing thats gotten me down is due to my familys and friends beliefs, i feel like im being forced into christianity, when i dont know what to think anymore.

Right now i feel depressed, but i enjoy most parts of life, but i really notice how much sadness im in right now,

Im writing this post not only to ask for some opinions and/ or constructive critisizm, but it relieves my stress as well.

Be aware some edits might be made due to leaving some parts out.

Thank you for your generous time.

Blindfired,

I have many hugs for you. I know how family dynamics works in the step system. I had a stepdad too, he was very abusive. Being forced into Christianity isn't all that nice either. I know you weren't looking for feedback so I'll keep this short. Just wanted to let you know you have hugs and support here.

Love and Hugs,
Tara

Well, you've got quite a few tough things to deal with. But, in various ways, you truly are an average kid, with pretty typical problems.

I bet that the more you open up to other kids around you the more you'll find that you have a lot in common with them. They'll have many of the same worries and troubles that you do.

So you really don't have to be socially isolated unless you choose to be. You can find a lot of support out there if you go look for it.

hey there, to PC

Relationship stuff can be really tough. Dealing with parents can be just as tough or even harder.

For the parents, I'm sorry they fight alot, try to keep reminding yourself that it is in no way your fault and what they say is NOT always true. Just because THEY say you might not make it - that's not right for them to say, how can they know? Do they have a future reading device? Parents often do things to try to help their children but make mistakes. They also have emotions too, which can negatively effect us in so many ways.

This girl, maybe you should tell her that it's not her job to "make you happy". I have major depressive disorder, and have made clear to my bf that it is NOT his job to make me happy. He is sad when I'm sad, because he loves me, but he also realizes that it is not his fault and that sometimes I need a hug even if I don't smile right after.

many hugs to you, if that's ok and I hope you feel better.

I agree with turquoisesea. It's not this girl's job to make you happy. I have struggled with depression, and it is difficult for those close to me when I'm down, but I always stress to them that all I need is to know someone is there for me, and it's not their job to make me happy. It upsets them when I'm down because they care, but they also know that I have an illness that makes it impossible for me to "snap out of it" or "cheer up" and sometimes all I need is to know that they care. Maybe if you told this girl that she doesn't have to make you happy, just support you when you're feeling down, things might be a little easier with her.

Also, have you thought about telling a professional like a school counsellor about all your problems? It can feel good to get it out, especially to someone who is neutral and whose job it is to listen and give advice to help you figure out what's going to work for and is good for you. Plus it's completely confidential, and I always liked the idea of letting everything out in the counsellor's office, and knowing that it'll stay there.

Sending you lots of hugs.

Thanks everyone.

This is sort of an "update" to how things are going.

That girl i mentioned above and i are no longer friends. lets just say s**t hit the fan and has left a stain. Not the best fix, but good enough for me.

Ive been feeling better, still havent talked to anyone, but with my little problems i dont think i need to.

My mom and step dad havent argued since I started this thread, and its very nice.

Spring football has started, and once again ive been asked to come out and coach one of the teams (community spring, all the kids in the area split into 4 teams, i coach with another person(s) on one of them, its really good for new guys.

I also made a commitment to getting in better shape, this is embarassing, but i have a little pot belly, and this summer my goal is to be able to take off my shirt without thinking that a fisherman is gonna yell "WHALE, STARBOARD SIDE!!!" then harpoon me :P hope you giggled at that.

Step sister stuff is no longer at the boiling point, again, less stress on the parents, less stress on me.

So things are looking up, and i hope this commitment of working out and eating much healthier (not a crash diet, dont worry) will add to that.

PS.

If i have the time (School, friends, my spare time used on hobbies, w/e) I shall join the good fight in helping others triumph their sadness and worries as you all have.

And once again, thank you everyone for your guidance and support.