[Piper16]

So we have been doing well the last few years, not too much going on, not working on any issues, just surviving, but no choas either. Now we are working on issues and the past and chaos is abounding, the inside is in great turmoil. Can't cope with it, not safe. Can't live this way, but don't know what to do. Need to keep huritng ourselves, want to cut so badly to make it all stop. For crying out loud someone wants to cut just because T said she doesn't think we will. How stupid is that???!!?? Most want to just because they are overwhelmed or scared or in pain, or want the memories and feelings to stop. I don't know what to do.

-J

[Miracle1986]

(((Piper)))

[darkpurplesecrets]

((((((Piper16)))))))

I understand what you are saying. The need to hurt--the wanting to cut to make it all stop--understanding that need to cut because of the fear or being overwhelmed or the pain and the wanting the memories to stop and the feelings to stop. They will as you work and you continue to give them a voice. I know it is hard, I am there and I hear you. To hurt is to let them win and you have been hurt enough. This is what I have to try to tell myself all the time.

Hurting yourself only last for awhile, then the pain of whatever it was comes back. It doesn't stop the memories or the pain, it just makes it more overwhelming for you because then you try all over again. You are going to be okay and I am not putting you down--I feel just the same as you much of the time. I validate what you are feeling, but I do not want you to hurt.

We have hurt enough and I do not want you to hurt anymore. I care and am here for you. I know what it is to have the choas going on--it is hard--it is turmoil. Insides are wanting a voice and needing to be heard, can you tell them they are being heard but that they need to work together? Today, I was in my t's office and I was trying to talk to him--I was explaining to him about how afraid I was of trying to work with them--my head was hurting so bad from the pressure they were putting on my eyes--everyone trying to see out and I grabbed my head.

He asked me what was going on and why I was so upset and I told him my head was hurting from all the pressure--He asked them to please step back so that I could talk to him and that he would hear them all and that they would have the chance to talk also--but to please give me a relief so I could not have the pain.

They did step back--I was surprised, and I realized that they just wanted the assurance that someone would listen and know they to were there. Do you think if you let them know that they are believed and will be heard it would help?

I just want you to know that we are here and care. I understand what you are feeling but I don't want you to hurt anymore--you too have hurt enough. Know we are here for you and are willing to listen anytime. I hope I have helped in someway. Keep reaching out here and talking. We are listening.

dps

[Piper16]

hi dps, thanks for your response. I really appreciate it, and it sounds like you have a great T. I hope I can learn to trust mine enough. My T told me at our last session that I shouldn't cut myself because I have enough pain and shouldn't make more. That made sense to me, but it is hard. Anyway, my thinking is not clear right now, but wanted to thank you again!

Originally Posted by darkpurplesecrets

((((((Piper16)))))))

I understand what you are saying. The need to hurt--the wanting to cut to make it all stop--understanding that need to cut because of the fear or being overwhelmed or the pain and the wanting the memories to stop and the feelings to stop. They will as you work and you continue to give them a voice. I know it is hard, I am there and I hear you. To hurt is to let them win and you have been hurt enough. This is what I have to try to tell myself all the time.

Hurting yourself only last for awhile, then the pain of whatever it was comes back. It doesn't stop the memories or the pain, it just makes it more overwhelming for you because then you try all over again. You are going to be okay and I am not putting you down--I feel just the same as you much of the time. I validate what you are feeling, but I do not want you to hurt.

We have hurt enough and I do not want you to hurt anymore. I care and am here for you. I know what it is to have the choas going on--it is hard--it is turmoil. Insides are wanting a voice and needing to be heard, can you tell them they are being heard but that they need to work together? Today, I was in my t's office and I was trying to talk to him--I was explaining to him about how afraid I was of trying to work with them--my head was hurting so bad from the pressure they were putting on my eyes--everyone trying to see out and I grabbed my head.

He asked me what was going on and why I was so upset and I told him my head was hurting from all the pressure--He asked them to please step back so that I could talk to him and that he would hear them all and that they would have the chance to talk also--but to please give me a relief so I could not have the pain.

They did step back--I was surprised, and I realized that they just wanted the assurance that someone would listen and know they to were there. Do you think if you let them know that they are believed and will be heard it would help?

I just want you to know that we are here and care. I understand what you are feeling but I don't want you to hurt anymore--you too have hurt enough. Know we are here for you and are willing to listen anytime. I hope I have helped in someway. Keep reaching out here and talking. We are listening.

dps

[Hunny]

Piper, Hunny comes along beside to help comfort all who need to be and just listen

Agreeing with DPurpleS, let them each speak to T.

Sometimes we needed to let one speak, then another, then another, just a few words each sometimes, all in one session. It doesn't always make sense but there could be a few that worked together on something internally. It helps to know T will listen to them all.

Please give yourself/ves time to all be heard before doing anything drastic. How about something really nice like taking some time in The Garden here? Can you?

Hope this helps.

H.

[Piper16]

Thanks hunny. So many inside want to talk to T, but I am afraid to let them. I am afraid of freaking her out, or maybe she wouldn't notice. I don't know. Anyway, thanks, i will try.

Originally Posted by Hunny

Piper, Hunny comes along beside to help comfort all who need to be and just listen

Agreeing with DPurpleS, let them each speak to T.

Sometimes we needed to let one speak, then another, then another, just a few words each sometimes, all in one session. It doesn't always make sense but there could be a few that worked together on something internally. It helps to know T will listen to them all.

Please give yourself/ves time to all be heard before doing anything drastic. How about something really nice like taking some time in The Garden here? Can you?

Hope this helps.

H.