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Old Aug 02, 2009, 07:29 PM
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The main reason we came on this site was to find people who understand us and KNOW we exsist, just like we do!! Unfortunatly, we've had about three or four incidents now where people here, just like all the damn outsiders we know, have claimed we don't exsist! WE ARE SICK OF PEOPLE SAYING WE DON'T EXSIST!!!!!!! We HATE it!!!!!!! Why can't people just accept that we are REAL!!!!!!!!!!!!
*lets out a scream of rage* Sorry... it's just getting to us!!!! If it continues, we won't come on here anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old Aug 02, 2009, 07:35 PM
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The main reason we came on this site was to find people who understand us and KNOW we exsist, just like we do!! Unfortunatly, we've had about three or four incidents now where people here, just like all the damn outsiders we know, have claimed we don't exsist! WE ARE SICK OF PEOPLE SAYING WE DON'T EXSIST!!!!!!! We HATE it!!!!!!! Why can't people just accept that we are REAL!!!!!!!!!!!!
*lets out a scream of rage* Sorry... it's just getting to us!!!! If it continues, we won't come on here anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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we believe that you are real (all of you) and we really like it alot when you are around.
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Old Aug 02, 2009, 08:35 PM
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Because they just don't get it. They live in denial.

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Old Aug 02, 2009, 08:43 PM
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Still here, hopin' and prayin' for you.

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Old Aug 02, 2009, 09:35 PM
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The main reason we came on this site was to find people who understand us and KNOW we exsist, just like we do!! Unfortunatly, we've had about three or four incidents now where people here, just like all the damn outsiders we know, have claimed we don't exsist! WE ARE SICK OF PEOPLE SAYING WE DON'T EXSIST!!!!!!! We HATE it!!!!!!! Why can't people just accept that we are REAL!!!!!!!!!!!!
*lets out a scream of rage* Sorry... it's just getting to us!!!! If it continues, we won't come on here anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(Kay)Erik
Maybe its not that people here think you dont exist but your process of dissociating and system of alters are a bit confusing to some of us. Take me for instance. I havent responded to your posts because its a bit confusing when you say things like you have alters from the 19th centery. the 19th century is the 1800's in calendar years. that means you have had these alters since the 1800's ? so you or your alters or both are ppossibly 209 years old in calendar years. Thats a bit farther than my mind can comprehend.
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 12:33 AM
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Eriks...my dears...

Do not look to others for recognition...recognize yourself, for that is what's most important.

DID and DDNOS are both on a continuum. They are never exactly the same for everyone. Not only that, but there are those in the DID/DDNOS community who still utilize their own denial to cope, and they use stigma to fuel that denial.

You spend so much time screaming into the wind....that's okay, but it takes up energy that you need to heal. You just have to understand that you can scream into the wind as loud and as long as you want to. Some will hear you and others won't, either because they can't hear you, or....they don't want to hear you. The latter has more to do with them than you.

I think this would be much easier for you if you focused your time and energy on those of us that DO hear you...

Some people...just don't get it!!
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 09:34 AM
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 10:34 AM
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Eriks...my dears...

Do not look to others for recognition...recognize yourself, for that is what's most important.

DID and DDNOS are both on a continuum. They are never exactly the same for everyone. Not only that, but there are those in the DID/DDNOS community who still utilize their own denial to cope, and they use stigma to fuel that denial.

You spend so much time screaming into the wind....that's okay, but it takes up energy that you need to heal. You just have to understand that you can scream into the wind as loud and as long as you want to. Some will hear you and others won't, either because they can't hear you, or....they don't want to hear you. The latter has more to do with them than you.

I think this would be much easier for you if you focused your time and energy on those of us that DO hear you...

Some people...just don't get it!!



some people may never understand, but here is a good place to start... please let a mod know if someone's bothering you
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 12:52 PM
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Sorry things are so hard and that you are feeling unseen by some........its so hardmany hugs if thats ok

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few things are more humiliating and what a tragedy when they believe you"
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 01:11 PM
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The main reason we came on this site was to find people who understand us and KNOW we exsist, just like we do!! Unfortunatly, we've had about three or four incidents now where people here, just like all the damn outsiders we know, have claimed we don't exsist! WE ARE SICK OF PEOPLE SAYING WE DON'T EXSIST!!!!!!! We HATE it!!!!!!! Why can't people just accept that we are REAL!!!!!!!!!!!!
*lets out a scream of rage* Sorry... it's just getting to us!!!! If it continues, we won't come on here anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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It's not that we don't believe you, I think it is a matter of trust. I asked you a question in a previous thread on whether your host body is female. You said it was and yet Manda still continues to call you Dad and your sig is highly confusing (Example; 'And Karen is Hill Erik's wife.') Many people with DID have major trust issues and like to be reassured that you will do us no harm!

We do care and we do understand and want to help support you, please keep sharing with us.
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 02:03 PM
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Maybe its not that people here think you dont exist but your process of dissociating and system of alters are a bit confusing to some of us. Take me for instance. I havent responded to your posts because its a bit confusing when you say things like you have alters from the 19th centery. the 19th century is the 1800's in calendar years. that means you have had these alters since the 1800's ? so you or your alters or both are ppossibly 209 years old in calendar years. Thats a bit farther than my mind can comprehend.
Amanalouise,
Yes, a huge some of us are from the 19th century, but we are now dead, stuck in either the age that we died (like myself)or the age that we liked most. (and all us alters are like this, not just the ones from the 1800's!) The body itself is 17-she was born in 1991. We started coming to her in 2007. She is the only one not dead. I am so very sorry for confusing you, and I am very sorry if I just confused you more. Please let me know if I can make anything more clear for you.
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 02:11 PM
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It's not that we don't believe you, I think it is a matter of trust. I asked you a question in a previous thread on whether your host body is female. You said it was and yet Manda still continues to call you Dad and your sig is highly confusing (Example; 'And Karen is Hill Erik's wife.') Many people with DID have major trust issues and like to be reassured that you will do us no harm!

We do care and we do understand and want to help support you, please keep sharing with us.
Pegasus,
We have trust issues, too. Yes, The Host is female, but she is never out on here. The reason why is she feels we need a place where we are not judged like we are in the outside world, which is why it angers us when we are judged here. But, I cross my heart that you can trust each and everyone of us, for we are nice people, if we simply are given the chance-all we want is accepance, which most of us have been lacking since we were born. To be honest, we really don't see what the sex of the body has to do with anything, but mabey that's just us...
please let me know if you have anymore questions.
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 02:48 PM
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I'm NOT judging you, just confused! We do accept you and would like to know more about all of you. Thank you for your reassurance.

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Old Aug 03, 2009, 02:51 PM
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I'm NOT judging you, just confused! We do accept you and would like to know more about all of you. Thank you for your reassurance.

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we know you're not judgeing, and are very sorry you are confused!
Please PM us with all your questions, and we will do our best to answer them! Hugs back!
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 03:13 PM
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Eriksplus,

Maybe the confusion stems from your use of the word alters, which would lead people to believe you have DID, when in fact that might not be the case.

Have you discussed with your therapist that you might be dealing with a different type of Dissociative Disorder? If they're saying you do not have DID and leaving it at that, then maybe you need to do some research on what does fit. That way you can finally be understood and properly diagnosed. I think you might feel a lot better with validation from a professional, and it might even help your own peace of mind.

Would something like the description I listed below fit? That might be the direction to head in if it does. If not, let us know and we'll keep trying to help you.

SICK of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 03:29 PM
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Eriksplus,

Maybe the confusion stems from your use of the word alters, which would lead people to believe you have DID, when in fact that might not be the case.

Have you discussed with your therapist that you might be dealing with a different type of Dissociative Disorder? If they're saying you do not have DID and leaving it at that, then maybe you need to do some research on what does fit. That way you can finally be understood and properly diagnosed. I think you might feel a lot better with validation from a professional, and it might even help your own peace of mind.

Would something like the description I listed below fit? That might be the direction to head in if it does. If not, let us know and we'll keep trying to help you.

SICK of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Orange Blossum,
It fits, but it dosent.
We are all dead exept for The Host, but she is still with us. Could you explain this theory more, please?
Also, we'd love to get diagnosed, but everyone says we don't even qualify for a personality disorder!
We are so hurt/confused...
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 04:30 PM
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 04:33 PM
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I am not familiar with this, Eriksplus. I just happened to find it and thought it sounded kind of similar to what you're all experiencing. Maybe you can Google it.

By the way, the diagnosis would be for the host. She is the one who needs to see a professional, but I just thought if you could gather some information so she could take it with her, it might help the professional sort things out so you don't have to worry.

Also on my info search, I came across this. I thought it sounded cool! Seemed like it fit you more, not the host!

I hope this is helping and not confusing you. SICK of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SICK of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old Aug 03, 2009, 05:41 PM
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I am not familiar with this, Eriksplus. I just happened to find it and thought it sounded kind of similar to what you're all experiencing. Maybe you can Google it.

By the way, the diagnosis would be for the host. She is the one who needs to see a professional, but I just thought if you could gather some information so she could take it with her, it might help the professional sort things out so you don't have to worry.

Also on my info search, I came across this. I thought it sounded cool! Seemed like it fit you more, not the host!

I hope this is helping and not confusing you. SICK of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SICK of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Orange Bossom,
we did Google it, and sadly didn't come up with alot. Oh well! Least we tried, right?
We know the diagonsis would be for The Host...we just need a diagonsis that would fit the bill in terms of us-Host has been diagnosed with Non Verbal Learning Disability.
You are confusing us just a LITTLE bit, but, helpng at the same time...hope I didn't confuse you just then, lol!
And, that last bit DOES sound like us! Ty!
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Old Aug 05, 2009, 12:47 AM
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I'm sorry ...I have to admit I didn't understand what you were saying and it did scare me into not speaking with you much. I still don't really understand but I don't judge. You deserve all the validation you can get , here and irl.
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We hope we didn't hurt you more than you already hurt. Sorry.
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Old Aug 05, 2009, 11:00 AM
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I'm sorry ...I have to admit I didn't understand what you were saying and it did scare me into not speaking with you much. I still don't really understand but I don't judge. You deserve all the validation you can get , here and irl.
We're sorry we scared you! can you forgive us?? We're not bad! Honest!
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There is nothing to forgive Erik. We hope we didn't hurt you more.
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