Coming Forwards

About a week ago, I had two new littles come forward. Their names are Trent and Trae. Trae is 4 and Trent is 9. Like always, when the littles under the age of five, in our system, they come outwith their protector who takes care of them inside. I can't seem to think of a better word right now for it, sorry guys. My thoughts are so jumbled right now.

Back on track, they have been around for quite some time now but just hiding in the shadows. I am so glad they came out and introduce themselves. At the same time I'm worried though. I don't think I can deal with learning new stuff right now, especailly with school starting up; already had my first day. I'm going to say though that they are very nice and very polite but Trae is very shy. Trent is trying to tell me his story already and it's scaring me. I don't think I'm ready for this, not right now. I know what triggered them though, I was reading a story in the medical text book about a young girl and I got scared. Next thing I know there was a page written in the journal that I set aside for everyone to write their hearts out if they want too. Also serves as a log, so I can catch up on what I missed. I don't know how to politely tell Trent I'm not ready yet, but if he wants to I won't hold him back from telling me. Anyone have any ideas? I'm at a loss of ideas right now while not hurting his feelings. Normally though I don't get triggered from what I read but I was thinking too that I'm so much easier to shove out of the way since I'm stressed.

I just needed someplace to post my thoughs for a second. Thanks guys for always being here for me! Hugs to all who want them

{hugs sissy} I can really see where you're coming from. You've been under a lot of stress but maybe learning about them will give you a distraction from RL stressors when you have time?

Hi LM. Maybe you could just have a talk with Trent. It can certainly be done politely ad respectfully.

Maybe it could go something along the lines of this:

I am so glad to get to know you and I know you have some really important things that you want to share with me. I know how important those things are, and when we talk about them together I know I will need to give you my full attention and care.
I know you wish you could tell me those things right now, but right now I am not quite ready to hear them. That doesn't mean I don't want to, and it doesn't mean they are not important - it means they are SO important that I want to be sure I am ready to help you with them in the best possible way. I want to be strong enough to give you the support, care, time and attention that I know both of us will need when you share your stories.
In the meantime i still very much want you around. I'd love for us to keep talking and getting to know each other better. I'd like to learn about what makes you smile, what makes you feel safe and cared for, what makes you afraid. Knowing more about each other will help us support each other when we get around to talking about the tuff stuff. I know you've been hiding around in the shadows for a long time and I am so grateful that you've found the courage to come forward. I am so glad you're here! Do you think you can be patient with me while I now gather my courage to hear about the things you need to tell me?

Thanks you guys a bunch

@ Fox thanks for the hugs and always being here for all of us
@ Luce Thank You so much for your response, I wrote my own version in the book tonight and hopefully he will see it and understand. I loved the point where you added in that by learning things about each other it will make it easier in sharing his stories. I'm willing to jump through hoops for these guys, all of them. Thanks again Luce. Hugs if you want them

(((((LM)))))

Luce,

Your post helped me too because I am going through a similar time right now with some alters...
Thank you.