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Oct 11, 2009, 08:23 AM
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i have just become aware of an alter who is obsessed with sex and feeling good sexually. She gets us into all sorts of situations some good some bad. I just read pm that had been sent on facebook to my friends boyfriend that were very sexual in topic.. Why is she so obsessed? do you think she experienced sexual trauma.
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Oct 11, 2009, 10:13 AM
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Hi crystalrose,
It is not uncommon for one alter to be obsessed with sex. It is very possible that she has experienced sexual trauma. That is where they may have "learn" it. They desire and need love and that is the only way they know how to obtain it. However some may confuse lust with love. They will not be shy which is good, however they will get the host committed to some activities that host and other alters do not care for. You must be careful because the alter will try to stay out for longer periods. |
 Eriksplus
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Oct 11, 2009, 11:10 AM
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Getting to know your alters is a big part of living with DID. I suggest you asking her about the situation. The body belongs to all the alters and the host. So it is a shared house. Each alter needs to learn how to respect that. Set up some rules to keep the whole house protected. If she violates the rules, then find a way to take away a priviledge such as email.
All alters are there for a reason. It is our job to figure out what that reason is. |
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Oct 11, 2009, 02:24 PM
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Rose,
we have someone here similear....he craves it often, and often gives himself "pleasure" inside. Treat this new person with you with love & kindness- for as we have found with the man with us, it is what they need & are lacking. (webber)Erik
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"We don't have a problem with us, the world does." ~(Webber)Erik @~~~%~~~ |
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#5
Oct 12, 2009, 06:05 AM
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how do you treat the alter with kindness and love wen they are trying to initiate sex with hosts best friends boyfriend. I'v been reading the facebook private messages that has been sent. They not worried about it they kinda into the kinky type of sex. Eek. Don't need to have more complications. The messages have been talking about the sex positions that would like to be involved with. I'v had sex with him before. And he asked how i was so good at certain sex acts that i have done before. I said i had no idea. What do i do.
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Oct 13, 2009, 12:30 AM
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I think this alter may be trying to get my attention. dont know why though.
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Oct 13, 2009, 01:08 AM
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Crystalrose, it sounds like something you have learned, as a way of getting love or manipulating others. I don't mean that to sound bad, but if you were sexually abused, it was just a way of surviving, and a promiscuous alter is often the natural response to that learned survival behavior. I don't know a lot about DID from personal experience, but my personality was compartmentalized until recent years, and I did a lot of promiscuous things. Can you talk to this alter and make "house rules" as suggested above? I thought that was very wise advice from someone more experienced than I, but I wanted to add my validation of your experience. Know that you are loved and supported ~ billieJ
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