[Miracle1986]

Me and my husband were... being intimate last night, and right in the between, without warning, I switched. Sarah came out. I had no idea.

After the fact, Sarah was acting petrified so I asked her what was wrong... and she told me what happened.

Now, Sarah is scared of my husband (she is only 13 years old)
My husband has apologized to both me and Sarah, but it hasn't helped Sarah. She is still scared. She tells me she feels dirty.
It has brought back lots of memories for her. She was up all night last night with her thoughts/memories.

Has anyone else ever experienced something like this? How do you cope? How do I help Sarah reliaze that he didn't mean to hurt her?

[anderson]

Yes and well it has been awhile science we be with a chocen partner. But when we first got together it did happen a couple of times. We later found out it was the entince good emotions that bought the others out. What we had to do is first by ourselves exsplane to the second party that when that action was done with a person of choice that it could be very good and loving between the two that really love each other. And that it was not ment to harm her. This may take some time cause remember this was a totally new exsperence for her with a positve person in your life for something that has always been bad for her. She is dealing with the conflicted emotions of situation. when thhis happen we asked the alter to wright down or even do so verbally exspaine why the situation was same then different. This will take time but no you are not the only one to go through this PM me if you would like to talk more about it. good luck and we hope she gets better soon.

[WePow]

Yes. And it can cause problems. I think you did great to explain things to Sarah. Also, I think it is awesome your partner apologized. What I suggest is giving Sarah a "safety" word so if she does come out and feels like she is in danger or unsafe in any way, she can speak that safety word. If it is when she is with your husband, he will know the word and know to stop and bring you back.

[Hunny]

Manda,

Trusting him has been something that we see it is so strong till this date. to me/us it is a amazing thing to pick out the place where you switched. Manda doing so well and Sarah is safe with Manda.

Thanks too for Anderson and Wpowers for giving these views... Um, we like people to much to help us with these difficult practical times that become so complex with all these parts.

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[wanttoheal]

((((((((Manda)))))))))) This is the first time this has happened?

I'm sorry you were triggered. Please take gentle care.

I read in another forum, that one needs to have rules of sorts with alters. The #1 rule is little ones need to "go play" or "Go to sleep" while adults have time together. I'm not sure how to do that, but speaking to inside may help.

Don't mean to hijack your thread Manda but this struck a cord in us. Husband told us that since he found out about did, he, ummm, kinda lost interest cause he isn't sure who it is.