?on inner peace

anderson · Jan 05, 2010, 09:25 PM

Looking for peace is like looking for a turtle with a mustache: You won’t be able to find it. But when the heart is ready, Peace will come looking for you. -----AJAHN CHAH- 1994
……ahh is there hope for peace with in the body that holds so many. We hope and prey and yes even trust that it will come. But the real question is when all feel that way at the same time. WE sent a friend an email today and we told her that we be to many for people to accept cause when we not in fear we remember the majority of what happens around us. It is fear that brings up the inner walls of separation not safety and self acceptance. But can any body truly accept another with a self-contained universe that works as a unit when all are at peace? I do not know. We know that inner peace does come and yes when we are no longer looking for it.
…But until then what do we have to endure while parts learn to face their own fears and not act out. WE finely acknowledge that we have bi-polar tendency but it is because we are feeling the swinging door syndrome with each alter that checks in so does their emotional baggage. Since the last group finely lowered their shields we have been crying, laughing and some just down right P*ssed off. And that has been all in a matter of minutes. WE have tried to keep our distance when we feel this extreme but one of the smaller ones made us cry. She had to ask someone to please accept her cause she be good, she not want to hurt no more. Now how do you tell the small ones That some people are just down right mean and they did no wrong. WE don’t know but we all cried after she ask that of the person we talked to. We have peace stating our issues in writing but still fear going face to face cause so many in the past would not accept us. We hope that is the next peace we find as a whole.

fadedspirit · Jan 05, 2010, 10:22 PM

We understand that when we are rejected by outsiders that they see something in us that they don't have. Outsiders are fearful for things they don't know and in turn reject us though they may be drawn to us for what they don't understand.

We cannot measure ourselves or our peace by what outsiders think or do. why? Because the peace that we need to attain is found inside us, in our hearts. Though we may be many, we are much stronger than what outsiders see, because they don't fight our battles.

The little ones need to feel cared for and nurtured first by the other parts,
much like parents are supposed to do for their young. Only with the other
parts communicating and understanding the needs of the little ones, can they learn to understand why certain things happen. There is hope for everyone and every part that lives inside us.

We hope we have made some sense that can bring you comfort. The little ones are very brave and strong for opening up the way that only they can.

Fadedspirit

anderson · Jan 06, 2010, 05:31 PM

Thank you for this Fadedspirit. We no feel so alone feel same way when we no hurt inside. Then we feel it all.

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Originally Posted by fadedspirit

We understand that when we are rejected by outsiders that they see something in us that they don't have. Outsiders are fearful for things they don't know and in turn reject us though they may be drawn to us for what they don't understand.

We cannot measure ourselves or our peace by what outsiders think or do. why? Because the peace that we need to attain is found inside us, in our hearts. Though we may be many, we are much stronger than what outsiders see, because they don't fight our battles.

The little ones need to feel cared for and nurtured first by the other parts,
much like parents are supposed to do for their young. Only with the other
parts communicating and understanding the needs of the little ones, can they learn to understand why certain things happen. There is hope for everyone and every part that lives inside us.

We hope we have made some sense that can bring you comfort. The little ones are very brave and strong for opening up the way that only they can.

Fadedspirit

Hunny · Jan 07, 2010, 12:50 AM

Anderson We loved our turtles but nope, no mustaches, lol

You give such a beautiful description of 'letting go', no matter how intangible that is. You said: "We know that inner peace does come and yes when we are no longer looking for it."

Also, we humbly offer, we think you not have bipolar tendancies so much. Our understanding from our neuro-therapist is that the bipolar moods changes are over a longer period of time, eg weeks. The swings are longer strides between peaks and valleys.

On the other hand, the whole of the person with DID with alters has alters that are perceived moods caused by switching over and this occurs over shorter periods of time, sometimes many within an hour, within a day or even a minute. That be the difference and why probably not bipolar.*

You are so kind to your new alters, helping each one work through their fears and then lowering their walls between. You are so kind and show ways we can be kind too and help our fellow sufferers.

Thank you, wister.

Quote:

Originally Posted by anderson

Looking for peace is like looking for a turtle with a mustache: You won’t be able to find it. But when the heart is ready, Peace will come looking for you. -----AJAHN CHAH- 1994
……ahh is there hope for peace with in the body that holds so many. We hope and prey and yes even trust that it will come. But the real question is when all feel that way at the same time. WE sent a friend an email today and we told her that we be to many for people to accept cause when we not in fear we remember the majority of what happens around us. It is fear that brings up the inner walls of separation not safety and self acceptance. But can any body truly accept another with a self-contained universe that works as a unit when all are at peace? I do not know. We know that inner peace does come and yes when we are no longer looking for it.
…But until then what do we have to endure while parts learn to face their own fears and not act out. WE finely acknowledge that we have bi-polar tendency but it is because we are feeling the swinging door syndrome with each alter that checks in so does their emotional baggage. Since the last group finely lowered their shields we have been crying, laughing and some just down right P*ssed off. And that has been all in a matter of minutes. WE have tried to keep our distance when we feel this extreme but one of the smaller ones made us cry. She had to ask someone to please accept her cause she be good, she not want to hurt no more. Now how do you tell the small ones That some people are just down right mean and they did no wrong. WE don’t know but we all cried after she ask that of the person we talked to. We have peace stating our issues in writing but still fear going face to face cause so many in the past would not accept us. We hope that is the next peace we find as a whole.