we have been badly,badly burned lately,terrified to post and ask for support feeling invisible,invalidated,tossed aside,ignored.not blaming anyone it just is and now we are reaching out in one last attempt to ask for support, we know nobody owes us anything but we are quietly,secretly hoping.....

[Lillyleaf]

It will all be ok. There are people who will help you just keep looking! Good job at keeping hope. Everyone here is rutten for ya. Keep on fightin. Love ya all,

Lillac

[beyond_blue]

It's easy to get hurt online and easy to hurt others. Collectively - on these forums - we are not an easy bunch to always like or understand. Our thoughts and words can become distorted. We can write impulsively and with disregard. I'm sorry you've been hurt; likewise, I'm sorry for anyone who may have been hurt by you.

I'm new here. So I don't know how it was you were burned - if it was here? on the forum? or in chat? (nor do I want to know). However, I do hope you find the healing, encouragement and support you're seeking. I hope you are willing and able to provide the same when fellow forum posters ask as well.

At any rate, you are visible, present and accounted for. I know you are here and scared to ask for support. You do deserve a response to your request. You were brave to ask for support despite your fear.

Below are some smileys I picked with you in mind (they all kinda look like they are dancing...sort of) I'm guessing you have some fondness for dancing since your screen name is trinitydancer... unless you were referencing Dancer the reindeer...(in which case I added the viking smiley...closest I could find to antlers)

[fadedspirit]

We sorry you been burned Trinity. We often feel uncared for and stupid. We know inside that we not like normal others, like we supposed to be. We try not to let it stop us from being us though. If ever you need to talk, please feel free to pm us or leave us a message and we will respond. Promise.

[justdontknow]

((((Trinity))))

We are so sorry that you feel this way. No one should have to feel like this. We are also sorry if we caused any of your pain. We would appreciate it if you would tell us so we can try and make amends. We are here for your support. Please PM us and let us know what we can do, even if it is just sitting quietly in a chat room with you, if we are here and able, we will. Know that you are a valuable part not only of this forum but also the world! Sending safe hugs, positive thoughts and warmfuzzies (from all the littles) from all of us to all of you.

Hotel Cris

[Hunny]

Trinity

Hoping you will soon find the 'season of the radiant butterfly' again tha brings joy on every flip of its wing. Come to the safe places that it prepares for you your mind, the days of light and respect and truly caring ones.

It teaches you its way to go and where to hold secure in the face of hurricanes, so it can flutter again.

(((((Trinity)))))

[darkpurplesecrets]

((((trinity))))

It is okay my friend and I am proud of you for reaching out again. Please know that we are here for you listening and supporting you. So proud of you. Please keep posting and let us know what you need and we will listen and support you the best we can. We care about you and love you. Sending you gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps

[Elysium]

(((((Trinity)))))

I don't know what happened...but I too am glad that you are reaching out.

There are a lot of people here who want to support you and help you through...we won't give up on you...don't you give up either.

Hope to see you around.

(((((((((((everyone)))))))))))))) thanks so much for hearing our pleas and answering them. with trust such a rare commodity for us its comforting to know that we can be safe,here,in this part

(((((cris))) we wanted to let you know that it wasnt you or any part of you that had anything to do with this. thank you for your compassion and caring

what happened isnt important but knowing that we count and have a voice that can be heard without fear of reprisal is important
the pain keeps growing inside and we are in serious upheaval and turmoil so are feeling overwhelmed right now. we need to protect our core from anymore trauma. we will check back in tomorrow and see how things are going. thanks so much again everyone

[anderson]

((((Trinity)))))
Please keep comeing and posting. even when we are taking down time we still think of all those here. Those with in can never be able to tell you how many times when we felt all was lost that by coming here we found a way to keep going. You and those within you are all needed and wanted here. Please stay and know that we all have thin skins and may say things that we do not realise can hurt another person. may those with in hear us and know that you all are wanted here.

[michelle421]

((((trinity))) you are wonderful, and you most definitely didn't deserve to be hurt. i am sad to hear that you are struggling, but it does make me happy to see that you have many supportive friends. i hope you are doing ok. hang in there... let us know if there is anything we can do to support your healing. take care!

((((((((((((everyone))))))))))) we want to thank you for caring so much words fail us right now as we struggle to process what happened today. one of us had a violent new memory,we wont share any details but its very,very bad. we called counselor and she yelled at us cause we didnt take it to God first instead of always calling her maybe we are just failures?

[Hunny]

Trinity,

Really?

My faith tells me that the God knew way before today...you were only catchin' her up. My therapist likes it when I catch him/her up. That way they know where the therapy should go next. I stress therapy because I don't think that prayer therapy alone can do the trick just like I don't think regular therapy can work without my spiritual component.

Find some good healthy grounding Trinity. We tried the prayer therapy before we came to our present therapist, only it never read quite the way you wrote above. Our current therapist is a believer but she never thrusts her belief system on me, nor did my former therapist.

Hope this helps. I think you are being abused by this therapist Trinity.

Trinity can you calm and ground. It is important to do that now. Do you need help grounding?

yes please help not doing goodd

her say only god can heel us her cant do it but why her yell at us//

[fadedspirit]

We hope this comes out right. Try to ground Trinity. Sit and think about breathing. Find your happy thoughts and think on them. Maybe what you need is a space to you without distraction. Sometimes we try too hard with our healing and keep pushing on when we need a break. Sometimes when we feel anxiety or out of control, and nothing else works, we let the little ones out to play and they help us to find peace while they play. You are a very good friend as well as very deserving of some peace and tranquility.

[beyond_blue]

Trinity, I'm sorry your T yelled at you. I don't think she should have done that. My T tells me every appointment that his office is a safe place. T's are supposed to be safe. No yelling.

I believe God can and does heal. He gave us people with the heart to be therapists. He gave us scientists with the ability to create medicine. By using what God gives us, He is healing us.

I don't understand what your therapist is asking of you. Like Hunny said, God already knows what's in your heart and mind. I've never gone to a religious or prayer-based therapist. So, I'm not sure if there was a therapeutic point to her statement to you.

I do know you are NOT a failure!! God laid on your heart to seek therapy and you did. You are doing what He asked of you. That's all you can do...and that is HUGE!!!

I like what fadedspirit wrote. I think I need some playtime too! Good suggestions.

*Little hands you a coloring book and crayons and one of her stuffies* She's hoping you're feeling better. I do too.

we love you guys a lot we painted our red and black mad and sad and ended up having a litle brakedown woke up covered in paint feling realy small and core husbnda was home and he call counslor and her not yell but talk loud anyway and say no can paint red an blak no more and get up take showr an cleean house we jus lisen and then core husbnad call core sistr and she tell us gayle meean an she gon help find somoen new for us to see say gayle stuopid we like core sister thank you blue litle for colring boook we likes it a lot

[Jewels]

Dear Trinity Dancer,

I am sorry for not being around much except to give updates on my trip in partial hospitalization, but I wanted you to know that you are a treasure, and you are wanted and needed here...we all need each other, and so I want you to know that I am here if you ever need to talk to someone...you can pm me anytime... and I WILL reply, regardless of how I am feeling at the time...I am sorry you felt so neglected in the beginning...I hope by now you have felt the love and support of all those who come here...I hope too, that you have found trustworthy friends who you can call upon when you are lonely, afraid or just needing a place to talk about your problems...

Have a blessed day...may you find that since so many are interested in how you are doing that it will make it light...

[beyond_blue]

*giggles* we likes yer core sister! we finks da consuler stoopids too! (big say i not posed to say peepews be stoopids). i likes paint'n cept big won't let me paint'n on da walls. dis onwee on da paper. maybe i get to paint lader an i show eberbodee! we kin patend to paint togeder on da paper. an i got lots uh color books an you kin pyay wiff dem anytimes you want.