Looking for hope

We have never gone for help because of thing that we belive even if we know they are not true. Now we have someone in our life that needs are help. also we have someone that wants to help us. I am scared we will hurt them both. The one that cares I know we need to talk to here and we need her but we are so scared of telling anyone anything and usally once we do we run and hide and never see them again but I dont want us to do that this time. Also that one that needs us I am scared one of us will hurt her. even if we dont know we have. We do have some people inside ud that love to kill and dystory not physicly but emotionaly. I am scared that she will hurt her. what can I do. should I find help? should I run? should I make us talk?

Mayple

Trust yourselves. You can give only what you have; you can't change that. And you know what? Being afraid can be a good thing. If you're afraid of hurting these people, chances are that you won't. If you were afraid of fire, would you let it burn you, or would you be careful around it? I'm sorry if I'm not making much sense lol .

Even if you don't think you're what your friend needs, I know from experience that it can mean SO much just that you're there, that you're really trying, despite everything else you have going on. Just trust yourselves, and try to trust these other people, little by little. Chances are, you'll surprise yourself, in a good way.

Take care, dear heart. We're here for you, as always.

Hi Mayple,
I think its really good that you want to reach out to people.
I know it can scary, but all of us at PC, we are here to help you.
Is there anyone inside that maybe can talk to the part that loves
to destroy and explain to them that that is not the way it has to be?
I can almost promise you that they love to kill and destroy because it
is all he or she knows. It feels "normal" to them. Or maybe they feel like
they have to destroy relationships with people because they are scared
reach out and get close to people. It can be scary to become vulnerable and
allow people to get close to you.

Our PM box is always open for you all, ok? You can PM us anytime if you need
someone to talk to.

Lilly, I agree with the previous posts. It is good that you want to reach out adn very good that you are not wanting to hurt these people. You share as you can and continue to make those healing steps as you are able...You are very brave and it is tough, but worth it.
Many safe hugs and support... You are brave.

Thanks I dont always feel that way though.... I am not sure what to do anymore I am scared I already hurt them... is one of there friend ship worth more then the other???

I think all friendships should be seen equally.

We're sorry you are struggeling

(Webber)Erik

((((Lillyleaf and magpie)))))
We know it be so scary but those that have worked out for us are so much more presouse. We hope that those with in will allow the person to earn their trust. But most of all that the people that are coming near you are willing to allow those within you to learn to trust again after being hurt so baldly. Just know that we to are there learning to trust learning that others can still hurt us but just because they do it does not mean that the good ones do not care.
safe hugs and thought from all of us to all of you.

((((Mayple))))((((Lilly))))

Thank you for reaching out and posting. I know it is so scary for it is scary for us all. For all of us being able to trust and reach out is not easy and it takes time. Taking time and learning how to trust and reach is a good thing. Risking is hard but if we never risk we will never know if we could do it, and if we never risk we leave ourselves alone and not giving us the chance to know that all people are not bad.

Sometimes in taking a chance we allow ourselves a chance to grow and to learn. Even though it is so scary and I validate your fears, if we do not try we will never know that it could be possible. Trusting takes time and it is smart to take your time to trust. I think you are doing a great job and asking questions is good too.

Each time we reach we move a little farther out of that place that we have always been in. Sometimes we get hurt and we have to regroup and try again. But here you are safe to reach as you can and feel safe enough to reach. There are no expectations or judgement as you do what you can. If all you can do is sign your name that is good enough. In time you will find your trust and your words and you will feel safe enough.

I know it is scary and I know that even reading this is scary. You are very brave to reach out and to ask for help. I know it can feel scary about helping someone and being afraid of hurting them. We all feel that within too and many times we will pull back because of that fear. But I believe that you will do a fine job as you learn to take little steps in reaching out and reaching back.

Taking baby steps so not to overwhelm you and that way you have the control. When we take big steps we do not leave ourselves any room for learning or chancing. To reach out is hard and we need time to learn who and what is safe. Give yourself permission to take a step out and then step back in and see if that felt okay. If it did then you can take another step maybe a little farther out. If it did not feel so good then give yourself some time and then try it again when you feel okay.

I know it is scary and that it is hard doing things for the first time. Know that we are here to listen and encourage you. If you need anything feel free to PM me. Know that we care and are listening and hear what you are saying. Sending gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps

Hopeing is what keeps us alive.. thanks all of you now we are in a place in out mind where we will be ok for only 4 more years they will go quickly I hope

All of us