[Lillyleaf]

Does anyone else have the problem of just swittching everytime you run into a moment that is hard? wether Emothionaly or anything we just switch and I know that it is not ok to do this anymore but I dont know how to stop. I switch when I am scared or angry or anything... I want to be ablet to stay outt but I dissoceate... is it ok for me to do this?

Thanks

[kasva]

hi lilly, i used to switch all the time...i seem to switch a lot less now that i know many of my parts better. it is what you do so im not sure it can be wrong...if you know w hat i mean. when i was little that is what i did to protect myself so it makes sense that it will take a long time to not automatically switch. but i still switch when i sense danger and im working with my t on this. good luck ...kasva

[Eriksplus]

Yes, we have this problem.

Once in school a classmate was verbally att*cking (Webber)Christine and eventually it became so terrible (Webber)Erik had to come out to defend her.

A couple of days ago I was Skyping another system (noone here). They were whining again because whing is all they do. Eventually (Kay)Erik got so angry he just popped out and told them off.

I don't know if this is exactly what you meant, but I hope this helped.

(Yeston)Erik

[Crew]

Hey ((((((Lilly)))))))))

One of the things that helped me from switching was getting to know your system inside why? By me getting to know my system I still switched. Becoming co-con or aware may help you notswitch . After you practice and talking to inside telling ppl the problems you are having with switching so inner communication made all the difference in the world for me.

I hope this helps and keep asking those question; great questions at that!

Thinkingabout you and wishing you well! Crew

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Lillyleaf

Does anyone else have the problem of just swittching everytime you run into a moment that is hard? wether Emothionaly or anything we just switch and I know that it is not ok to do this anymore but I dont know how to stop. I switch when I am scared or angry or anything... I want to be ablet to stay outt but I dissoceate... is it ok for me to do this?

Thanks

I cant tell you if its ok for you to do this. only you and your treatment people can decide what is best for you. example what if your treatment people are telling you to use meditation, grounding breathing, or what ever and I go and tell you sure its ok to do this. my telling you that is going to go against your treatment and do more harm to you then good.

what I can say is that different treatment people work different ways. some dont want their clients to just let their self dissociate. I once had a therapist who told me - what the H e double hockey sticks was I paying for therapy to learn things like grounding and breathing, if I wasnt going to use it. then she told me to leave and come back when I was ready to stop wasting her time and mine.

And you know what. In my case she was right, when I thought about it why was I paying a hundred bucks an hour for her to teach me about dissociation and how to stay grounded if I wasnt going to use what I was taught. it would be a waste of my money and her time and my time. So I went back to work using all the grounding and breathing exercises when ever I got triggered by something so that I would not dissociate. It was hard work and took quite some time for me to master those tools and actually remain aware, but I am that much more healthy because of it.

follow what ever your treatment people are telling you to do. They are the ones that are treating your mental problems.

[Gr3tta]

One thing that has really helped us in switching less is asking each other to teach each other how to do the things they are good at ourselves.
For instance, I (Emma) am horrible at resolving conflict or standing up to authority figures. Ivy is very good at this. In the past, if I was in a conflict with an authority figures, Ivy would take over. So, I finally asked her to tell me how she does it. I learned from her. Now I don't always switch in the same situation, I can try to handle it myself. So now we all try to learn from each other, and it's led to much less unplanned switching. We hope that helps!