[peaches100]

I am not sure if i am in the right forum for this, but since it pertains to "self parts," the Dissociative Disorders forum seems closest.

I grew up with a mother who was very avoidant and in denial about my problems and a dad who was very critical and shaming of my feelings. It seems that i have internalized both of my parents to the degree that, whenever i allow the scared, hurt part of myself to come out in therapy-- to express any childish pain or fears, or get any comfort -- the parent parts of me act immediately to make me feel deeply ashamed and wrong for sharing my feelings. It has gotten to the point where i can't make progress in therapy because parts of me will shame and "undo" the healing things that happen for other parts of me.

I don't know how to get past this. I feel like I'm wasting my t's time because something inside me prevents me from either letting myp ain out or letting the comfort in.

were sorrry this is hapening to you we have parts that sabotage and punish as well is there any way you can try to isolate and maybe talk to the "parent parts" and tell them that they need to stop hurting your little self? sorry we cant be of more help but we wish you all the best

[Nupoet64]

(((((Peaches)))))...Same here. It is not easy, but do not give up. T can help you work through it. It is confusing adn irritating. Hang in there.

[Luce]

Peaches, maybe it is necessary for you to now work with these parts directly before you can progress further. Even though you internalised these parts from aspects of your parents, these parts are still 'you', and they have served a very useful purpose in your development.
It may not feel like it, but these parts likely served a protective role for you as a child. By taking on what your parents would say say or do, they preempted their reactions and protected you from further external abuse / derision / whatever. These parts may seem awful and abusive, but their original motviation may well have been to protect and not harm. Like all dissociated parts their jobs can cause trouble later in adulthood, but the good news is... they can be healed and integrated, just like the rest of you.
Maybe it's just time to find a way to work *with* them instead of in spite of them?