[Crew]

Confused as usual,

Can anyone relate to body memmories?

Just wondering?
Crew

[Miracle1986]

yes... body memories SUCK!!!!!

[krazy_phoenix]

Hi crew, I've replied in your thread in the Survivors of Abuse forum, but also wanted to add here that yes, we too have body memories and yes, they are revolting and horrendous and suck! I have to say though, I don't think mine have ever shown themselves as obvious quite like yours has for you this time round. I have unexplainable bruises regularly (but gets explained away with DID - you know what I mean...), but mostly they are acute hurts/pain/illness with not much to show for it except for the hows and whys in my bottomless brain. I'm so sorry this is happening for you. Like the first time wasn't pain and hurt enough. You do not deserve it this time, or any other time.
(((((((((((((crew))))))))))))))
kp

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Crew

Confused as usual,

Can anyone relate to body memmories?

Just wondering?
Crew

yes there are days when I notice I feel like yesterdays of days gone by happenings feel like its all happening in the present.

depending on whats going on I take care of the problem by taking a bath, doing yoga, breathing and mindfulness activities, take a walk, call a friend, call my treatment providers.. the list is endless of things that can be done to self nurture during these times.

[anderson]

((crew)))
we are so sorry that u are going through this. that is why we are staying so low being with a puppy helps us be in the moment with calm suport. they do suck to the max. just know we are listening and hope u hear it from all of us.

[kasva]

Im so sorry (((((crew))))))) they are the awfullest of memories for me. mine have gotten a lot less often. I think its all about grounding....but its so hard with body memories. I'm thinking of you and i hope they go away for good soon kasva

[silentwhisper]

Yes...we too have body memories. With lots of work and therapy they have lessened and we have developed an ability to tell that is what they are. It does not lessen the pain but it has helped us cope better with the pain when we can recognize it for what it is...a memory. Listening and caring.

[Bmee2]

Hi Crew, i wrote to you in the abuse section. yes those types of memories are part of life here too. Safe places and lots of comforting things help.

[Astridetal]

Yes, we can definitely relate. Our body memories come with generalized physical pain that is hard to locate. Body memories suck. Sorry you're having them. Safe hugs if appreciated.

[brittfly]

Crew i am so sorry u are going through such awful body memories. I am sending you a safe big warm cozy hug!!! Sounds trivial.... but trying to remember it is not happening now has helped me.... but in your circumstances from your other thread that must seem like a stupid comment. But you are safe now even if your body is showing otherwise. be kind and gentle to you and yours.... soothe....do what feels safe and warm and fuzzy. hugs to u

[justdontknow]

Crew,

I also experience body memories. They are frightening to me but if I can, I try to remind myself that is in the past and it is not happening to me right now. That doesn't work most of the time, but when the memory does pass, I remember that and I journal about it. Also I try to keep myself actively doing something and if I can, doing something physical. Physically feeling my body do the activity gets rid of some of the residual pain that my brain thinks is there. I concentrate on the activity and only that. I feel the physical exersion of my body and can feel my individual muscles performing the task. I know that sounds weird, but that is what I do (when I can think rationally enough to do it). It is a persistant battle that I am involved in, but they have been getting less frequent as time goes by and as I am able to distance myself from them. It's true. It is very easy to get lost in the moment and to unconsciously let your brain think it is really happening. I know. But keep trying and trying to gain back your power. Don't let your mind control you. You control your mind. I hope this helps.

Cris from the hotel

[Crew]

Thank you (((justdon'tknow))) for your heartfelt post, you have no idea and it's not nice you have body memmories but it's nice to know I'm completely alone. Oh and I have so much MISSED YOU!
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(((((britt)))) I am also sorry you have to deal with them as well, and saying that you are stupid , I am just going to say I totally disagree about you being stupid! I just don't think there is ever a stupid comment unless a person is downing another then that is when I think it's stupid.
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(((Astridedal))) hi thanks for responding to my post and I'm Crew and I don't recall meeting you :handshake: and have a thanks for posing! oh nice to meet you! Crew
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(((Silentwhisper))) and (((kasva)))) thank you I know you guys are coming from a good place and as for Bmee2 hi, I'm crew, I don't think I know you, nice to meet you and thank you for writting to me with your awesome post
To *hugs* ~Crew~ thank you!

[invisigirl]

yes... I think so.

I used to not think so - things would happen that would bother me or make me uncomfortable, but I was able to make sense of them - 'oh, that makes me uncomfortable because of this...'

but now, I will have moments.. sometimes really nice moments.. where suddenly my feelings/emotions change completely because of what I'm feeling physically. but I have no idea why. usually I just suddenly want to push away, fight off, run away, and I'm scared. it's very odd and really pisses me off when I'm in the middle of something enjoyable.

[justdontknow]

Originally Posted by Crew

Thank you (((justdon'tknow))) for your heartfelt post, you have no idea and it's not nice you have body memmories but it's nice to know I'm completely alone. Oh and I have so much MISSED YOU!

Thanks Crew! It's good to know that we were missed. We hope to be here more often now that the holidays are over. Holidays are not a good time for us. Take care.

Cris and the Hotel