First Experience with Little Ones

Yesterday, I had an appointment with my T. He used hypnosis so I could try to get in touch with the little ones and begin an introduction, nurturing relationship with them. It was an amazing, scary, overwhelming experience. I was able to hold her and comfort her and we were wrapped in a love neither one of us had ever experienced before. It was undescribable.

Since that time, I have been sick to my stomach with a headache. Is this a psychosomatic response to this new experience? Has anyone else experienced this and will it go away?

I have homework to do with her. I have to acknowledge her twice a day and read to her. When she is experiencing bad feelings, I am supposed to acknowledge her and repeat my nurturing messages (thank goodness, my T wrote them down for me). It's very difficult, there is so much confusion and fear, but I am trying.

yeah, I remember the first time a few months ago i came in "contact" I guess you could say with that. Well, I had before, sort of, and just did not realize.. Its hard to explain.

I am proud of you though!

some things i like to do to keep the Baby happy:

-anything you would do for a child normally. Crayons and paper, fingerpaints, DISNEY MOVIES, playing with an animal, bubble bath, kids toothpaste...video games, if she or he likes them.

-we have two teddys and a blankie. And, baby is feircely attached to teddy. baby beilevs teddys have souls and feelings and so always makes sure that they arent shoved inder the bed or stuff like that.

- try giving the little something to be responsible for herself too, once you are more in touch. Maybe get a fish or something that she can feed once a day. Judge this on age of course and see if you can come up with something reasonable and appropriate. start small , too.

-take time. Time for the bad feelings to just be is just as important as time for the good ones. sometimes, Baby just wants to curl up and cry and nothing will help because it just has to come out.

- find out what your little likes. surprise them with it if you can.

I have tons more ideas, want more?

I use hypnosis techniques all the time and have been for over 5 years and have never had any bad reactions afterwards in fact I always feel calmer. Of course I have never been told (not even when I went under hpynosis back in 1990) while using guided hypnosis to imagine holding and cuddling my memories.

As far as I know United States certified and licensed therapists that use guided hypnosis no longer use the "Sybil under hypnosis meets her flesh and blood alters" approach for therapy of DID. The reason for this is because people began to believe being DID meant the person was being possessed by flesh and blood people. This approach also caused more harm then good because the person ended up dissociating even more causing even more memory storage problems of memories being stored separated, time loss and so on.

Any and all states certified and Licensed professionals that I have been in contact with over the past 5 years has told me instead of the "Sybil meets alters approach" the mental health field professionals are now required to use the approach that the person themselves remember and experience that memory not as if it was separate from themselves. And also having the person recognize when they themselves are feeling like a child and do things to comfort themselves.

So given that you are having this reaction I would seriously consider NOT undergiong guided hypnosis again. And at some point when you do decide to give it another try please make sure you know the qualifications of that therapy professional and know you have the right to have someone (a friend, relative and so on) that you know and trust present.

I too read to myself every day, play with play dough and legos, and bubble baths and so on.

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The headache and stomach ache are common to me, too much stress, too many feelings, too many memories in my body....... overwhelmed. Go to bed and take a breathing break, some would call it meditation, hopefully drop off into a nice nap until my nervous system calms down...... These things cannot be rushed. Take care.

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Thank you for your input. While using hypnosis, I was supposed to accept her and bring her into my heart, he referred to her in the first person and attempted to help me realize that she is indeed me, that the memories are my memories. I am having difficulty accepting those events as having happened to me - it was an attempt to begin the process of nurturing myself, to begin accepting what happened and is happening. For me, the DID comes from not accepting. I just wanted to clarify . You have had useful suggestions to my posts and I appreciate the time you put into them, thank you

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Thanks for the help. I know this is going to take time. I sometimes forget to be patient with myself and the therapy process. This is quite new to me and your support is helpful.

Phew. For a bit I thought maybe this professional was setting you up for some major problems. So happy it wasn't the case.

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I love and have found your posts helpful too.
take care.