Help me NOT shut the little girl out....Pleaseeee

Help.
I seem to make Little Girl go away too much when I know nothing will ever get resolved in my head if I do not show her love and attention.
How do I involve her? How do I spend time w/ her so that she feels wanted and doesn't come out at the most embarassing and inappropriate times?
How do I love her, how?
Please, anyone...help me. Guide me.

Did you ever try reading children's books? For me, I had to start doing that as my adult self, but it seemed to nourish the littles. I sometimes watch movies too. And I just got a colouring book - full of patterns, not pictures - and that helps too.
The other thing is to try to work out what the triggers are when she does come out. That way you can work on those triggers. But I've not got very far with that myself yet.

twistr
nic ladi cam an took me owt wen nic man helps an she gav me big hug an held me she mad me feel saf and luv
can yu hug lil girl an sho her luv
daisy

TS,

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. Your T, of course, will help you with this but she may be taking thing slow because you are so new to the dx of DID. Follow her lead closely.

Sometimes it can be quite unsettling and overwhelming if you rush into this. DID can be complex and frightening at first. Just facing your dx, and acknowledging your "little" is a big step.

DID and Dissociative Disorders are different for everyone and do not follow the same path in healing. What may work for one does not always work for the other so be careful of people who suggest to you that DID "should be this way or no way." That can cause harm to your healing if you begin to doubt what you know to be true.

Like someone saying "you don't have breast cancer because you don't have this gene or that cell and you didn't need chemo."

I also see that you are new here at PC. (month and a half)

You may want to go back through the archives and do some reading. There is so much helpful information to be found there, learning about the struggles and the triumphs of people with dissociative disorders.

People will support you here and offer things that might've worked for them, but in the long run, listen to your T or a professional with a degree.

Good luck.

Petunia

{{{{{Twisted Soul}}}}} sorry that things are not good right now. Hugs to you all around.
Lilith

(((((((((((( Twisted Soul ))))))))))))))))

It takes time to get used to your child-self, what she does and does'nt like, what her needs and wants are, and what makes her happy too.

Try not to feel under pressure to do things too quickly.

In my opinion, it is possible to get adult and child to work together in harmony.

Go easy on her.