H is wonderful, but we havent been together but six months now and though he does know a bit about it and what Ive told him, Id like to be able to have resources to help explain things like why I act the way I do, or how to best deal with littles or what do do if I space out etc.

Yet, I cant seem to find ANYTHING on this online?
everything seems to be from T perspective or first person.

[cherybery]

Thats so wild because I was thinking about this last night with my fiance. He just is not grasping it, which I don't blame him because even I can't but he tries to help but I can tell he is frustrated. I want him to know everything before we get married. I am so glad someone posted this. Thank you Rainbow!
HUGS
Cher

[Monty_girl]

I took H with me to T and had T explain some things to H. I was in there as well. I've never been able to find anything that could ever help to explain things to H.

Could your T speak with H?? That was the only thing that helped H deal with me and mine.

ya no problem

Heck maybe there are none 0_0

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I took H with me to T and had T explain some things to H. I was in there as well. I've never been able to find anything that could ever help to explain things to H.

Could your T speak with H?? That was the only thing that helped H deal with me and mine.

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yes, that certainly might be a plan. Though im not sure im entirely comfortable just yet with him seeing my t - Im a real bad all or nothing thinker and i get nervous as i think I have to share all of therapy with him if i share a little.

Which, I know is not true, but still frightening.

[Monty_girl]

Why not talk to T about it first and you all can make a plan about what you want or need H to know. That way you can have it all planned out and know what will be said before hand. That way H will know what he needs to and nothing more.

yes - boundaries.

That might even be a good boundaries excercise.

It isnt that I dont want to eventually share this all with him, its just terribly unsafe for me to do so just yet.

little bits at a time, little bits at a time.

thank you ((((everyone)))

You'll know the right time.

[SongBirdandDaisy]

Rainbowzz,

I too experience the same problem. But, I have a book called "The Dissociative Identity Disorder Sourcebook" by Deborah Bray Haddock, ISBN # 0-7373-0394-8.

It not only has great resources for us, but there is a chapter just for "Survival Tips For Significant Others". It covers basic communication, boundary issues, and self care. Throughout the book, it also addresses ways for us to communicate what we need to and explain it to others in our lives. It really has a lot of great answers. It's written by an abuse/DID specialist in Minneapolis, Minnesota. For newbies, it has some ideas, lots of ideas, on managing the disorder, setting up survival lists, emergency lists, etc. I have found it an invaluable source book.

Songbird

[LILITH]

Hello Rainbow try needid.org... I found it helpful

Awww thank you so much guys.

(((hugs everyone)))

Hes been fantastic so far, hes also very gentle spoken and steady so that helps alot. Thank goodness hes so patient lol I even frustrate myself sometimes