if

a friend? is (deleted)
mean and judgemental do you take it personally
i do
i hurt and i stay hurt
how do you not do this

It's hard because friends should not be judgemental towards other friends but it happens and I like you take it too heart.
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Fuzzy could that friend , be having a bad day and knowing you as a friend just be ranting to release stress?

thank you
wish i could delete mean people

thanks, I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, maybe too much sometimes

but yes I think often when this happens someone is having a bad day

(shame if it escalates and is never resolved ..)

Friends should never hurt us. They should be there to watch our backs. To be there to laugh with and cry with. And for us to do the same for them.
Fuzzybear I am sorry that you are hurt.
Lilith

I have a different view on this-

I have quite a combo of friends. Each of them cares, loves and accepts me for who I am with 100% of what they can give to me in our respective friendships.

Some that I can email or talk to and they like to just stay on the sidelines watching how I continue to grow but also letting me know that they are there for me any time, These type of friends care for me so much that they want me to experience the joys of first hand experiences and the joys of accomplishing things, and the joys of saying "wow I did it, I really did it, I really am a survivor and can win"

I have other friends that I can have a good time or a good cry with, These type of friends care so much for me that they don't want me bottling up and shoving down my feeings.

and I have friends that care so much for me that they are willing to put it all on the line and flat out there good and bad regardless of what I think, no matter what is going on, if that means getting me back on track where I should be. They would rather my be angry with them than my being six feet under a slab with my name, date of birth and date of death on it.

Anger passes but death is permanent.

I am very glad I have each and every one of my friends that I have and accept them as they are, the good and the bad, for they would not be in my life if they did not care for me the ways t hat they do.

Ahhhh, wisdom. Knowing and respecting our own limits, our individual friends' limits, society's limits.......
Then forgiviness: all of us, for our limits, especially when we mess up and cross lines we shoulda stayed inside of....... starting with forgiving ourselves....... then taking that experience out into our larger world and forgiving our judgements of others. It'sa job.
Life's work kinda stuff.

Thanks for all your replies!

hillbunnyb... good post!

Wow, you guys are really smart! So understanding of the human condition. I saw T last night and he said I was human too, who would have ever thought????

Now, what does that mean - to be human?

Songbird

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still friends (i hope)
w_i

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your fuzzy friend

Fuzzy,

I take it personally and I don't know how not to. Sorry.