The DID spilled out of my lips

Hmmmmm, it spilled out. I seemed to have opened my mouth to much. I had a few drinks. i wasn't drunk or anything. Just very hmmmmm..... Relaxed?? We were with 2 other couples for a bbq. I've known them for awhile now. And I know that both the other wives have issues with past abuse in their childhoods as well. We were talking just the women and she say's that's she's multiple. And goes into stories about how her others do things like hurt people. So my big mouth opens up. I wouldn't feel so bad. But I'm not sure if the other woman made the story up about herself. I've been around others who have DID and I can see the switching. I've never thought that she was DID. She didn't even know what DID stood for. . Feel stupid for opening my mouth.

I'm sorry this happened to you. But maybe they were just as "relaxed" and won't remember it?

Dont be too hard on yourself. Sometimes the heart of wanting to know someone who has DID like me has opened my mouth before I thought to look at the validity of the other persons claim.

Yes there is such a thing as violent alters but they dont just go out attacking people.

DID is caused by being the victim not an abuser so it is impossible to have an abuser alter that just goes out and attacks people. That happens in sci fi movies not reality.

the reality is that abuser type alters are pieces of memories where a person was in an abuse situation and they fought back so when for example I switch into the alter called "Margo" -

1. the present day situation has to match in some way to the abuse situation that resulted in that piece of memory being separated and stored in my unconscious level

and

2.during the present day situation I must experience the same feelings that is contained in that separated piece of memory

3. I would be unaware that I I was acting out that memory piece because in order for it to be considered DID The memory has to be stored in my unconscious level AND I would be acting it out while unaware

You want to know if this woman is really DID ask her what she means when she says she attacks people. If she is DID she is not going to be able to give you details unless she is co conscious in which case she is not attacking people because co conscious people have worked with a therapist and knows how to and can control their behavior.

As for noticing switches - if she truely is DID a non professional CANNOT see or detect the switches. Switching is just a person imagining themselves out of one situation and into a mental day dream. Can you tell when a normal person is thinking "I have to remember to pick up milk on the way home today" when you are sitting there talking to them about for example what you bought at the Mall? That is the same thing a person with DID does. They daydream alot to the point where they believe they are in their mental safe place. Their body continues to function normally based on what memories are being acted out. The act of separating the memories into the unconscious level is a protection for the person. and the acting out of the memories are trigger related.

For example a friend and I sitting talking about a piicture. The only memory pieces that I would act out would be things that match that topic-

Friend - hey I bought this at the mall do you like it

Mentally I am floating in la la land physically my eyes tell my brain that I am seeing a picture. My ears tell my brain my friend is asking for my opinion - opinions of pictures is contained in the memories known as "Mary"

Physically I act out the mary memories by telling my friend - yes I like the way the colors blend together.

There is no visable signs that I have switched to "mary - I don't climb under tables, and contort my body into and weird monster shapes and there is no death curtling scream like in the three faces of eve.

My best friend does not see any difference in me or my behavior because my brain has matched the trigger - the picture and topic of conversation with a memory.

The only reason my friend can now tell the difference in my switching is because she is an active part of my therapy program and has had discussions with one of my therapists who went into detail with her about what to look for and how to help me.

I have many DID friends and many non DID friends and the ones that I can tell they are switching are the ones that were pretending to experience a switch because they were over dramatized media versions.

True DID only trained professionals can tell when a person is switching or has switched.

Also the fact that she did not know what DID stood for is not an indication that she did not have DID. It just means she does not know that the term Multiple Personality Disorder has been changed to Dissociative Identity Disorder. When I was tested and diagnosed I was called Multiple Personality Disordered when I entered therapy 5 years ago and told my therapit at that time I had been tested and was diagnosed Multiple Personality Disordered shge said - "So you have been diagnosed DID" and I asked her "whats that?"

The term DID is new so alot of people still think DID and MPD are 2 different things or they don't realize the term MPD is no longer used in the therapy profession.