[Teepee]

After spending Christmas with my family and listening to a lot of bulls*^t about how horrible I was and am don't really want to get into my childhood (csa, neglect, abuse) I have come home to my partner and kids things seemed ok then what felt like out of the blue partner is in tears saying they can't handle all the baby talk and the vacant looks and not remembering things.

I'm not sure what I need here just some ideas of what's happening I guess!

has their been a recent event that may have caused it?. (you don't have to go in to detail about it), but maybe something happened that changed that person's view?

or maybe it's just a case of miss understanding- in which case maybe you need to print out some online information or something.

hope i helped a little

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Teepee

After spending Christmas with my family and listening to a lot of bulls*^t about how horrible I was and am don't really want to get into my childhood (csa, neglect, abuse) I have come home to my partner and kids things seemed ok then what felt like out of the blue partner is in tears saying they can't handle all the baby talk and the vacant looks and not remembering things.

I'm not sure what I need here just some ideas of what's happening I guess!

whats happening...well it can be any number of things....example on a normal level most human beings do revert to behaviors of those around them. when I am around one of my siblings I tend to swear a lot, when I am around another sibling I tend to soften my voice and talk younger, when I run into a past elementary teacher I had I tend to slip into being the obedient student. When Im with my partner my behavior talk tone is that of a wife /friend, when Im with my children my behavior/tone/words reflect that of a parent....human beings learn from day one whats acceptable and what not so human beings naturally change accordingly.

sometimes even with normal human beings this can get messed up out of habit, drugs, alcohol, mental or physical health problems what ever the list is endless...but sometimes on a normal level a humans brain will mis-interpret what their senses are telling them. happens to everyone swear at the wrong moment, talk with the wrong words/tone at the wrong time.

this one time I was standing at church talking with others and thinking about a conversation with someone else, before I knew it the sound of my voice changed and I dropped the F bomb. the person I was standing with was mortified and caring at the same time by saying "are you ok dear?"

I went home and called my therapist for fear it was an alter. my therapist laughed and said only you know whether this was an alter but sounds to me like you just had a normal bad a'ed moment because you were multitasking (thinking one thing and doing something else)

having these symptoms.. baby talk, vacant look, and memory problems can also be any number of mental or physical health problems..I sometimes get this way from things like my medication, lack of sleep, poor diet, my depression, bipolar Multiple Sclerosis, anxiety, ....gosh there are so many different things with in me that can cause this in me,

again only you can say what triggered your moment of baby talk, vacant look and memory problems.

my suggestion is talkw ith your (or a) treatment provider, they can help you narrow down whether this is normal for you or a mental or physical health problem, and help you fix it so that it doesnt keep happening for you.

[Teepee]

Thanks for your answers, we (my partner and I) have had a very rough year I was hospitalised three times once for three weeks and the other two for 5 days each I was diagnosed with OCD, depression with Sui ideation, AvPD, binge eating disorder, sensory processing disorder and traits of DID I feel like I'm collecting labels all over the place and my partner is really trying hard to be supportive but never knows if I'm being safe day to day (I also cut).

I feel very overwhelmed when my partner gets upset with my behaviour especially when I have no recollection therefore feel like I can't change it or prevent it happening again.

I have been on my meds for about 8mths so don't think it's related to that my GP is very good at doing blood tests and the like every couple of months.

My partner and I got into another argument last night as I had prepared dinner and apparently it's something I had been told a few times they don't like it got a little heated then ended in tears for both of us. I have absolutely no recollection of being told this and am starting to worry that I'm loosing my mind and things are heading south again. I can't end up back in hospital

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Teepee

Thanks for your answers, we (my partner and I) have had a very rough year I was hospitalised three times once for three weeks and the other two for 5 days each I was diagnosed with OCD, depression with Sui ideation, AvPD, binge eating disorder, sensory processing disorder and traits of DID I feel like I'm collecting labels all over the place and my partner is really trying hard to be supportive but never knows if I'm being safe day to day (I also cut).

I feel very overwhelmed when my partner gets upset with my behaviour especially when I have no recollection therefore feel like I can't change it or prevent it happening again.

I have been on my meds for about 8mths so don't think it's related to that my GP is very good at doing blood tests and the like every couple of months.

My partner and I got into another argument last night as I had prepared dinner and apparently it's something I had been told a few times they don't like it got a little heated then ended in tears for both of us. I have absolutely no recollection of being told this and am starting to worry that I'm loosing my mind and things are heading south again. I can't end up back in hospital

Im a bit confused because here where I live and work there is no diagnosis called traits of DID. here the term Traits is a general term that describes whether a person is happy or sad, introverted vs extroverted, conscientious or neglectful. basic characteristics kind of like if you were asked to describe your best friend you would say they have blond hair blue eyes, nice, outgoing....here where I live and work you can have symptoms of a disorder but not traits of a disorder..

example my traits is that I am generally outgoing, mild mannered, hard worker, my dissociative symptoms before I was integrated was feelings of spaciness, numbness, memory problems, feeling like sometimes I was a watcher not a participant, loss of time, hearing voices, .....

here where I am you can have symptoms and still not have the actual diagnosis if you dont meet the diagnostic criteria in the DSM 5.

so do you mean you have what my location calls some symptoms of DID but not all the diagnostic criteria yet?

[Teepee]

Ahh yes amandalouise,

I get rather confused my T and GP both have said I fit the criteria as I have more than enough ticks in the right boxes but don't have anything official I see my Pdoc late January.

I told T today some of what happened over Christmas and then my reactions she replied with "well no wonder you went away" and the more I think about that statement the more I'm confused! Where did I go then?

Thank you for being patient with me amandalouise I'm struggling with all this wondering if as you said its normal or part of the depression or am I just now being made aware of my symptoms grrrr!!

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Teepee

Ahh yes amandalouise,

I get rather confused my T and GP both have said I fit the criteria as I have more than enough ticks in the right boxes but don't have anything official I see my Pdoc late January.

I told T today some of what happened over Christmas and then my reactions she replied with "well no wonder you went away" and the more I think about that statement the more I'm confused! Where did I go then?

Thank you for being patient with me amandalouise I'm struggling with all this wondering if as you said its normal or part of the depression or am I just now being made aware of my symptoms grrrr!!

thanks so much for clarifying for me, much appreciated. where did you go...here when my therapist says that its more a statement of recognizing I had dissociated. you will need to ask your T what she meant, I wouldnt be surprised if she meant the same as what my therapist means when my therapist says that.