[MomgaJupiter]

Well, I've been married for 15 years and separated for 1 1/2 years, and I can't decide what to do. My problem is that I have different parts with different opinions about my husband. I just realized that I have parts who come out when we are fighting, and they only see his "bad" side. Other parts only come out when he is safe and mushy and they really love him. Since the parts hold my feelings, I can't separate it out and decide what to do. At any given moment I feel and want different things. It is also really hard on him. He knows about the dissociation, and is supportive about it, but he never knows how I will react to him in any given moment. Then I feel badly for leaving him hanging.

My plan is to hold a meeting with my therapist and have all of us parts talk about it. What I'm really posting for is just support and understanding. This is really hard and it sucks.

[DePressMe]

Momga, I have been thru divorce while being dissociate. I also had many different feeling and was confused by them...it took therapy for me to resolve some of my "parts" and meds to help with my other symptoms...take care,....D.

[littlemick]

Originally Posted by MomgaJupiter

Well, I've been married for 15 years and separated for 1 1/2 years, and I can't decide what to do. My problem is that I have different parts with different opinions about my husband. I just realized that I have parts who come out when we are fighting, and they only see his "bad" side. Other parts only come out when he is safe and mushy and they really love him. Since the parts hold my feelings, I can't separate it out and decide what to do. At any given moment I feel and want different things. It is also really hard on him. He knows about the dissociation, and is supportive about it, but he never knows how I will react to him in any given moment. Then I feel badly for leaving him hanging.

My plan is to hold a meeting with my therapist and have all of us parts talk about it. What I'm really posting for is just support and understanding. This is really hard and it sucks.

Thank you for posting this. My husband does the same thing to me.

[Kendyll]

I think the meeting for all of you to talk it out sounds like a good idea. Let everyone be heard and try to come to a consensus based on ALL the options.

My husband has DID. I'm lucky that everybody we're aware of likes me, but even then it can be difficult - especially when we're fighting. Any time we're fighting about anything, The Guys assume that I'm the one at fault and that I'm the problem. I get that - they're around to protect and care for him - but it's not always true. It makes it harder for him to understand his part in our conflicts. Sometimes he is the one with the problem but he doesn't always understand that. Then Everyone gets mad at me for something I didn't even do and We all have to sort it out and make peace.

Heck, I'm just One, and even I have conflicting opinions about my husband! we get along well and we're not headed for anything bad...but I feel and want different things at different times. I cna only imagine how confusing and scary it must be to have several of You going back and forth about it all.